Very difficult.....

[ByHisGrace]

I'm married to a guy who can be very hard to live with. I know he sees me as under him, he talks down to me. For instance today at the bank he saw our savings account has dipped kind of low. So he snaps at me "Don't go to the bank until furthur notice!!" I felt hurt that he would speak to me like that. I thought we were supposed to be team players. But no..he talks down to me. He is the breadwinner....I work very part time and only make enough to cover my car payment. I don't spend a lot of money, and I always ask him before I buy something (other than groceries).

Then the other issues is the way he is with our dogs. We have two huskies and it is hot here. He wanted them to be outside today (it was 88 degrees this morning) he said it's beautiful outside....but yet he wants the air on. I did bring the dogs in....my point is he is SOOOOOO difficult to live with. He is incredibly stubborn!! Everything is a power struggle with him and he often says he is in charge. He's the boss or as he likes to say he "runs the show".

When he is mean like this he brings out the worst in me. I'm the Christian and yet I end up calling him bad words, like today. Sometimes I have a really REALLY hard time liking my husband.

He by the way knows of Christ and believes in Him but has no relationship with God at all...at least not one that's known to me.

All advice is welcome and appreciated. What would you do?

[No2Flesh]

I'm married to a guy who can be very hard to live with.

All advice is welcome and appreciated. What would you do?

You should withdraw the entire savings account and go buy as many pairs of shoes as you can with whats left over from getting yourself a new hairdo. :heh


Seriously though, Ill pray for him. Im afraid that sounds a lot like I used
to treat my wife and Im ashamed of it.
:hug

[ByHisGrace]

LOL....Thanks NO2Flesh....

I think my husband admires and takes on the personalities of the different men he works with. I think if he is working with someone who has a strong, tough, personality he comes home and imitates it here. He is all about power, control, getting his respect, and reminding me and the dogs that HE is in control. :rolleyes

Very hard being submissive to a man who forgets he is supposed to love me the way Christ loved the church.

[No2Flesh]

I realize now my "control" is greatly enhanced by her input.
She is even smarter about some things than am I and is very useful.
One day Ill be answering to God for how I treat her...

As you know nothing can change a heart like God can,
I prayed your husband would come closer to Him.

[ByHisGrace]

Yep! That's what it would take the Holy Spirit speaking and convicting his heart. Thank you for your prayers!!! They are very much appreciated.

[Kathe]

You need to read and pray throught the book, power of a praying wife. You are his wife, his helpmeet, whether or not he acts the part, you need to. The only way he is going to change is by God and there is NOTHING you can do EXCEPT pray to God. This book has changed many lives.

My husband read the Power of a Praying Husband and God changed both of us through it. I read the Power of a Praying Wife and God changed both of us through it.

Change you and God will change him. This book will help guide you.

Kathe

[ByHisGrace]

I'll put it on my list! Thank you!

[Deepcallstodeep]

You need to read and pray throught the book, power of a praying wife. You are his wife, his helpmeet, whether or not he acts the part, you need to. The only way he is going to change is by God and there is NOTHING you can do EXCEPT pray to God. This book has changed many lives.

My husband read the Power of a Praying Husband and God changed both of us through it. I read the Power of a Praying Wife and God changed both of us through it.

Change you and God will change him. This book will help guide you.

Kathe

:thumb:thumb This book changed my whole marriage. Well... that's a lie... God changed my heart and my marriage, but this book was an enormous help in that process. Be prepared: I was not happy about admitting my own faults or how I needed to change. It was hard to ask the Lord to change me, when I didn't think that I needed to change. I had to be humbled big-time.

Praying for you and especially your husband, ByHisGrace.

[Live4Jesus]

LOL....Thanks NO2Flesh....

I think my husband admires and takes on the personalities of the different men he works with. I think if he is working with someone who has a strong, tough, personality he comes home and imitates it here. He is all about power, control, getting his respect, and reminding me and the dogs that HE is in control. :rolleyes

Very hard being submissive to a man who forgets he is supposed to love me the way Christ loved the church.

My husband is very much like this too. To a "T". I've tried explaining to him that respect has to be earned but he refuses to see it that way and demands it from our children. And then when they don't show him that respect, it's my fault.

When he worked the oilfields he became someone I did not like at all and I almost left him. The way he became caused my daughter to turn to drugs, cutting herself and she even ran away once. My son was on his way down that path as well.

He doesn't work the oilfields now but he is in construction and doesn't know any Christians really at work. I am at a loss as to what to do. I pray for him and talk to him but ultimately it's his walk and he is the one who is going to have to answer for how he treats me and his children.

[Cd4u_2]

sounds like he need a man to man talk. Invite a pastor over to show your husband how to love his wife.