I have a date!

[Big Daddy]

I don't know you, or your situation, but:

Have you prayed about this?


If God answered you with a definite "NO" in seeing her again, would you stop?

If she is divorced for an "unbiblical" reason, would you then stop seeing her?

If the answer isn't settled, talk to your pastor about it.

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OK, bring on the criticism and disagreements.
Good advice Zaph.

Praying here.

[Widowsmyte]

Hmmm,

And when you DO guess low... subtract five years from THAT too!

Women can do sooooo much with very little and create the right effects...(guess that is our appeal to them as well they think they can do the same with us).

[Widowsmyte]

Zaph:

No you are in the right ballpark regarding your advise.

Dave:
Just don't "force" anything. DO make sure you are quietly listening to God. He won't steer you wrong -- but be patient.

As far as "unbiblical reasons" --- there is only One who calls that shot. If it does become part of your discussions should things move towards a more serious level --- mutually seek out an older married couple in your church and with your minister --- have them "mentor" you in this area. They don't "see her" as you do -and- (nor you -- they) will be more attentive in drawing unresolved issues into the light [for] Christian solutions.

Good luck! The fact that you are here running this by the group says you are at least "turned to the wind" before you head down the runway (as it were).

Humbly yours....

[Just Dave]

I don't know why she divorced, and at this point I don't think it would be appropriate to talk about. We are just getting to know one another and we're having fun. I can't see shouting "sinner" and getting all righteous, I have my sins too and I've been forgiven just as she has.

We played golf Saturday and Sunday and had lunch afterwards. It's getting very warm here, I'm thinking a day trip to the beach and a picnic next weekend. Oh it's soooo long until the weekend. I hate Mondays.

[Big Daddy]

I don't know why she divorced, and at this point I don't think it would be appropriate to talk about. We are just getting to know one another and we're having fun. I can't see shouting "sinner" and getting all righteous, I have my sins too and I've been forgiven just as she has.

We played golf Saturday and Sunday and had lunch afterwards. It's getting very warm here, I'm thinking a day trip to the beach and a picnic next weekend. Oh it's soooo long until the weekend. I hate Mondays.
Why would it be inappropriate to ask her why her husband divorced her?
Would be one of my first questions. Especially as you are both Christians.

[Just Dave]

Why would it be inappropriate to ask her why her husband divorced her?
Would be one of my first questions. Especially as you are both Christians.

It's a very personal and intense question, so far things have been very light between us. When I've known her for more than a week, we can discuss more serious things.

[faithful2Him]

It's a very personal and intense question, so far things have been very light between us. When I've known her for more than a week, we can discuss more serious things.

I agree with you and I think that you are sweet for being sensitive to that situation.

You don't know the circumstances behind her divorce and I agree with Betty that even if her divorce was unbiblical, God can forgive all things. If she has reconciled with God, then I don't think that the reason behind the divorce is all that important in this stage of the relationship.

Just trust in the Lord and you can't go wrong :nod

[Majorgrace2]

Be very carefull...:yikes

I know a man who met a woman who said she was a Christian and she convinced two meetings that she was dedicated to the Lord.:pray

Wow... what I'm about to tell you will curl your toes.:gaah

They got married and he found out that she had $200,000.00 of debt. First red flag.:yikes

She said that she loved the outdoors and walking... not so after marriage. Second red flag.:gtongue

She stopped attending the church meeting. Third red flag

She wanted her name added to all his assets and a cruise or a trip to Hawaii. Fourth red flag

When he refused she left... no comment or explanation. Fifth red flag:scratch

She came back to get her things... this is what she said... and while there called 911 and filed a false report which landed him in jail. Sixth red flag

They gave his key to her and barred him from going near his house for 10 days. Seventh red flag:fear

She took everything he had and moved it out... when he came back it was empty. Eighth red flag:aha

Only thing that was saved was his accounts and house that was still in his name.

She had all the right answers because she was raised and worked for the Salvation Army. Her brother retired from the Salvation Army also.

If I didn't know this man for 62 years I would have suspected some abuse on his part. What a lesson to learn at that age.

LOOK OUT! YOU COULD BE NEXT...:pray

[Veillifted]

Be very carefull...:yikes

I know a man who met a woman who said she was a Christian and she convinced two meetings that she was dedicated to the Lord.:pray

Wow... what I'm about to tell you will curl your toes.:gaah

They got married and he found out that she had $200,000.00 of debt. First red flag.:yikes

She said that she loved the outdoors and walking... not so after marriage. Second red flag.:gtongue

She stopped attending the church meeting. Third red flag

She wanted her name added to all his assets and a cruise or a trip to Hawaii. Fourth red flag

When he refused she left... no comment or explanation. Fifth red flag:scratch

She came back to get her things... this is what she said... and while there called 911 and filed a false report which landed him in jail. Sixth red flag

They gave his key to her and barred him from going near his house for 10 days. Seventh red flag:fear

She took everything he had and moved it out... when he came back it was empty. Eighth red flag:aha

Only thing that was saved was his accounts and house that was still in his name.

She had all the right answers because she was raised and worked for the Salvation Army. Her brother retired from the Salvation Army also.

If I didn't know this man for 62 years I would have suspected some abuse on his part. What a lesson to learn at that age.

LOOK OUT! YOU COULD BE NEXT...:pray

Id say your jumping the gun... while it is good to earn trust, it sounds like Dave is taking it slow and he is aware of his 3 points of contact. I defintely like advice like yours, but he didnt say he was marrying her and he is taking it slow:)

[Majorgrace2]

Did I say Dave was getting married? Sorry that was not my intent. :scratch