How would you handle this?

[ByHisGrace]

Please keep posting to us, we're your sisters in Christ and we want to support and comfort you while you go through this. I pray that the presence of the Lord becomes very real to you and comforts you. Let us know how we should be praying for you at this time.

[Kathe]

I would also add to get to a church that is not affiliated with the base and see if you can talk to a pastor and/or bibical counselor there. That way it will be confidential from the military.

Kathe

[faithgal]

Hi,
I will pray for you.I also had this happen to me many years ago,God really took care of me.As a result that being said was the begining of my relationship with the lord.What the enemy meant for bad God turned to good!!

Bless you

[lbeels]

You've got plenty of good advice here but I would stress to go to an outside source pastor, one you can trust, to help you.

I will pray for you.
God Bless

[inHISmightyhand]

Thank- you so much, sisters, for the prayers and words of comfort. You are truly a blessing. I have not confronted DH yet. It is hard. I agree I do need to talk to my pastor about this. I am trying not to get the military involved but I still want to find out my rights so that I have all the information. I plan to open my own bank account and have my paychecks get deposited into it. I know I have to bring it up to him, I am praying for the Lord's timing on that one. There have been many oppurtunities in things he has said, for me to make a scathing remark but I have held my tongue. No, let me take that back. The Holy Spirit must have had a good grip on it because on my own, I would have said some nasty things!! I am leaning on God to give me the right words to say at the appropriate time. I do have an appt set up with the doctor to get some tests done. The appt is in 2 weeks and I find myself feeling bitter when I think about it. I am also praying that when I do confront him, he will be open about it. Only the nudging of the Holy Spirit can help him there. I am also trying not to internalize this, if thats possible. Another thing, that makes this harder, is that I do still love the man. He is the father of my children. He has been in my life as a husband for 12 1/2 years, and as a friend for 18. I pray that he will get right with God, and become truly happy inside. That being said, I know I can't stay married to him. Since my last posting, I have found more evidence that this is not a one time occurence. He is even searching locally. Thank- you again for your prayers. Keep them coming. God Bless you all!!

[Ruby]

Praying for you:hug

[Abba'sGirl]

I'm praying for you too, inHISmightyhand. :hug

[BlessedinHim]

I think you should confront him, but keep a cool head. Be able to talk about it with him. Let him know that it hurts you that this has happened. At first he may be all out there about it, but in the end, he will be glad to get it out.

If you can work it out with him, great. If not, the sooner you confront him, the sooner you are out of danger of STD's.

The Lord will provide a way for you to have your needs met.

Praying for you.

[God's_Princess]

I am praying for you, too. Can't imagine what you are going through.