How would you handle this?

[inHISmightyhand]

I am in deseperate need of some Christian advice. I recently found out that my husband is engaging in some "high risk" behavior while he is away for business (he is in the military). I do not want to explain it in any further detail on this board. He just returned from another trip yesterday. I have not confronted him yet. I would like to know how others would handle this situation. We live in base housing so I cannot simply ask him to leave. We'd all have to vacate. I know the issue needs to be dealt with but I am not sure how to go about it. We have been married for almost 13 years and have 3 children together. I could sure use some Christian advice and prayer.

[I Believe!!!]

Praying for you.......

[AllforHim]

:hug I am praying for you :pray Maybe you should bring you concerns to his attention.Tell him of your concerns and let him respond :scratch Pray and ask for guidance :pray

[wife]

Pray Pray Pray.. Seek God in His word.

[inHISmightyhand]

Thank-you for the responses & prayers.

Celticmist, I will only expand to say that, yes, it is extra-marital (and probably illegal too). I am hesitant to go to his command with it because it will diretly effect child support. If he is in it will be taken directly from his paycheck. I do have a job but do not make it enough to support us on my own...

[Adoration]

Dear Sister, I am so very sorry that you are going through this.
Something like this would deeply grieve and hurt me. I don't have any military advice for you, but I am praying for you to be touched and guided by our loving Lord, and that you feel HIs supernatural peace over you and your children.
A big hug sent your way.
your sis in Christ~adoration

[ByHisGrace]

Oh my goodness, yes lean on the Lord. I will pray for you. Look to the Lord to guide you and comfort you. How devastating this must be for you. I'm so sorry...I know you must feel absolutely heartbroken and probably sick to your stomach. Please know the Lord is on your side and will help you.

Psalm 34:18

Psalm 147:3

[topekaclark]

:pray

I'm sorry and will pray for you and your family.

[farmgirl]

I hate to post this but please also make sure you get tested for STDs too. You probably are already I know. I am so sorry.

[Azurelunar]

Have you went to the Military One Source website? I know they won't give you christian advice, but they may be of some help and refer you to a local agency. You can call them 24/7. Ideally you should be able to talk to a Chaplain, however I personally am not all that comfortable with them due to the fact I sometimes question the confidentiality. Sometimes things do unintentionally leak. I would definitely be very aware of the consequences of his actions, that way when you do talk to him you can be educated on the topic. I'm not saying this is you, but I've seen many military Spouses in total darkness during personal situations because they leave it to the Soldier to take care of the problems. In the event you're are unaware of the programs the military community offers, then I highly suggest you get to the know them quick. A good one to know right now may be the legal office. The military offers many agencies to assist in such matters - take advantage of them.

You may also want to lurk around some military message boards frequented by Spouses who have/or are going through similar issues.

I pray that all will be resolved.