Serious negatives to homeschooling?

[nesecond]

You have NOT a clue as to what you are talking about! There was a lady at our church who sounded JUST LIKE YOU and we were talking about how she could spot a HS child a mile away. I was just smiling and nodding and then she said, "I know your children are very popular s in school because they are so outgoing and friendly, those poor HS children just aren't like your s!" I laughed and told her we HSed. She turned bright red and she actually argued with me saying I was teasing her. My kids are VERY friendly and outgoing and anywhere we go they can make friends and jump right in. HS children are not backwards and introverts!

As I said before there are exceptions. I'm just saying all of the homeschoolers I have met are that way. And just so you know, I'm not talking about 's who were homeschooled either, I'm talking about all of the HIGH SCHOOLERs who are homeschooled THAT I KNOW. It's not that they don't know what is "cool" or popular, it's just that they seem less comforable with people their age. Is it a crime to point out one flaw that I have noticed with homeschooling? I'm sorry if my opinion is different than the rest of the people on this board; however, I do know what I'm talking about.

[HSmomto4]

As I said before there are exceptions. I'm just saying all of the homeschoolers I have met are that way. And just so you know, I'm not talking about 's who were homeschooled either, I'm talking about all of the HIGH SCHOOLERs who are homeschooled THAT I KNOW. It's not that they don't know what is "cool" or popular, it's just that they seem less comforable with people their age. Is it a crime to point out one flaw that I have noticed with homeschooling? I'm sorry if my opinion is different than the rest of the people on this board; however, I do know what I'm talking about.

:idunno My oldest daughter is in high school and I have never seen her or her friends have any trouble talking with anyone who wasn't HS. Most of her friends go to the local high school and she never has a hard time relating to them. Of course I guess there could be a problem with FINDING something to talk about, most HS kids have the intelligence of an adult by the time they are 12. It would make it harder to relate to someone who is behind. We are lucky that her friends in public school are all AP kids and very intelligent like her.

[RRuth]

I know of one downside at least. Every single person I know who has grown up being homeschooled has problems carrying on a normal conversation with other people. .

I'm curious, were YOU home schooled too? This remark is the equivalence of not carrying on a normal conversation either.

Ruth

[RRuth]

Is it a crime to point out one flaw that I have noticed with homeschooling? I'm sorry if my opinion is different than the rest of the people on this board; however, I do know what I'm talking about.

That's right, it is ONLY your opinions. But to say that most home schoolers can't carry on a normal conversation is unacceptable.

[NewWorldOrder]

As I said before there are exceptions. I'm just saying all of the homeschoolers I have met are that way. And just so you know, I'm not talking about 's who were homeschooled either, I'm talking about all of the HIGH SCHOOLERs who are homeschooled THAT I KNOW. It's not that they don't know what is "cool" or popular, it's just that they seem less comforable with people their age. Is it a crime to point out one flaw that I have noticed with homeschooling? I'm sorry if my opinion is different than the rest of the people on this board; however, I do know what I'm talking about.


I think I know what you are saying. My 16 year old daughter, who homeschools, gets looks of shock when other kids her age find out she's homeschooled because she doesn't fit the stereotype of a typical homeschooler. It's funny, some of her closest friends are actually older than her, 19-20 years old. She's quite mature for her age, but she is still a normal teenager. But, I also don't think you know that many homeschoolers. I went to public school, and let me tell you, there were some strange kids in my school. I even, sorta, hung around a girl who was so much in her shell, I don't know how she survived. It doesn't matter whether the kid homeschools, or goes to a regular school (public or private), it's how they are raised and what they're personality type is.

I will say this though, she is the envy of some of those public school kids on several fronts. One being, she is very diligent about her school work. She basically schools herself. I grade her work, but she studies very hard and gets really good grades. She is holding a 4.0 in school, has a part-time job, and still finds time to socialize with her friends. She has friends who go to college, go to public highschool, and friends who homeschool. She is a very rounded kid. She is a bit quirky though. I mean how many kids her age would put on her MySpace that her heros are Jesus and her parents.

[Kathe]

As I said before there are exceptions. I'm just saying all of the homeschoolers I have met are that way. And just so you know, I'm not talking about 's who were homeschooled either, I'm talking about all of the HIGH SCHOOLERs who are homeschooled THAT I KNOW. It's not that they don't know what is "cool" or popular, it's just that they seem less comforable with people their age. Is it a crime to point out one flaw that I have noticed with homeschooling? I'm sorry if my opinion is different than the rest of the people on this board; however, I do know what I'm talking about.

Could it be that they are uncomfortable around people their age because people their age live in the world and love worldly things rather than because they are homeschooled. After putting 4 kid through public school there are a lot of things (see my other post on this subject) that I would like my 2 homeschoolers never to run into. My 2 homeschooled kids are just as outgoing and friendly as my public schooled kids. I just met a girl last week who was homeschooled through high school and she was outgoing and held a leadership position at her job. She excelled in college and graduated with honors.

I'll stick with homeschooling. There are too many things in PS that I don't want my kids to know.

Kathe

[Cd4u_2]

As I said before there are exceptions. I'm just saying all of the home schoolers I have met are that way. And just so you know, I'm not talking about 's who were home schooled either, I'm talking about all of the HIGH SCHOOLERs who are home schooled THAT I KNOW. It's not that they don't know what is "cool" or popular, it's just that they seem less comfortable with people their age. Is it a crime to point out one flaw that I have noticed with homeschooling? I'm sorry if my opinion is different than the rest of the people on this board; however, I do know what I'm talking about.


Personally, I think it is more of a personality than anything else. If the mother have anxiety, more likely the child does too. And so homeschool suits them both because that's where they feel most comfortable. Public school will not cure them . I know alot of people with anxiety issues that went to public school. After they graduated, they still feel uncomfortable around people and avoid them. Majority of them apply for SSI from mental illness. So it really doesn't matter if they were homeschooled or public school, The results will still be the same.

[MochaMel]

Kathe, i couldnt' agree more!! My 13 year old is very well spoken and can speak with kids' his age and adults... and none of the garbage he would have had to deal with in a public school. I have seen first hand the damage that can be done to children in public school. My oldest is SO far from God, b/c of his public school background. You know God is just not cool... :ohno

Does he have alot in common with a non-christian public schooled kid.. no not really, but i am not raising him for this world, but for the glory of God. BUT he has alot of friends in our neighborhood and has even been able to witness to a few kids' in a non-abrasive way.. Does he get along well with others, very much so and is usually very well versed in holding a conversation with his peers, younger children and adults.

What one said above about HSed kids' not fitting in a highschool setting with kids' their age.. I say kudos to the parents for raising there children ot a higher standard and not the mold of what our youth looks like today!

[ninesixteen]

I understand what nescond was trying to say although you can't group EVERYONE into the category. I have only encountered 1 grown person who was homeschooled growing up, and as I mentioned, before it was in college. The notion I got, was the same as nesecond stated, but I wouldn't group all homeschoolers into that category.

Just as those "worldy public school" children shouldn't be grouped either. Both of my worldy public school raised children are just fine. I have said a couple of times that I give kudo's to those who are able and have taken the step to do the homeschooling thing, but some of the comments on here, wheeew...... I'll just say they are kinda messed up.

BTW NewWorldOrder, my daughter has Jesus and her parents as her hero's too! :)

[MochaMel]

^^ you're right we shouldn't lump all public school children into that. That was not my intention but re-reading my post i thought i should clarify that as it kind of sounded like that was what i was saying.

-- i know alot of well rounded public school kids' as well that love God and have great values, and morals.... It really has alot to do with parents and how we choose to raise our children and what guidelines we set down. I also think it has alot to do with each child's personality.. Each one is different and needs different things.

Enough said. :)