ADVICE ...pLEASE!!! :( (merged)

[A LIGHT TO YOUR TRUTH]

I have a question.....This morning on wat to work My Husband starts an arguement with me ......Let me first say I have been working out(excersize) with my friend of 17 years we both have 2 children so we workout and deal with our kids at same time.. for at least 1 hour 1/2 mon-fri after work...then she takes us home. well my husband started an arguement this morning saying..."Must be nice to hang out with your friends everyday hanging out" He said: why can't you stay home..u always gotta be doing something" I said:I am working out excersizing.....im not partying or doing anything else..we workout she takes me home.......then he said:well I'm gonna start hanging out with my friends..i'm gonn start going out too more....

This makes no sense to me...I am not going out or hanging out ..my firend and I are excersizing to stay healthy ..look better for ourselves!! How is this hanging out....I am so upset ......please anyone can give me some insight....i need to vent..this makes no sense to me !!??? Am I wrong for what I am doing ..Should I stay home?????i KNOW THIS IS NOT A THERAPY GROUP i JUST WANTED SOME OPINIONS IS ALL WE ARE ALL CHRISTIANS SISTERS ..

[ByHisGrace]

Maybe you shouldn't do it Mon-Fri? Maybe every other day or twice a week?

I guess your hubby wants you home, he misses you. Take it as a compliment!

[A LIGHT TO YOUR TRUTH]

Maybe you shouldn't do it Mon-Fri? Maybe every other day or twice a week?

I guess your hubby wants you home, he misses you. Take it as a compliment!

..noooo hE'S AT WORK WHEN i GO EXCERSIZE!!!He works until 1 am..I excersize when he's at work...so I still shouldnt workout...this is considered hanging out????I am not hanging out i amd working out...

[NewWorldOrder]

Maybe he just a had a bad day, and he's using that as an excuse to vent. I know I'll do that sometimes. It isn't very nice and it sure isn't fair to everyone else, but I still catch myself doing it because I'm frustrated about something. Just give him some time to cool off, and maybe he'll forget about it.

[hapimom98]

Ask him how or if he would like you to do it. Perhaps if you asked him for his advice he wouldn't feel so "left out" of it. Go to him after you've calmed down and ask him calmly, not angrily or sarcastically. Explain how you're trying to stay healthy or whatever and ask him what would be a good way for you to do this that he would feel good about.

I'm sure there could be a compromise that would make you both happy.

[ByHisGrace]

Oh..he's at work while you do this. Hmmm.....he must think you're out having fun. I don't know. See if he brings it up again. If he doesn't mention it then he was probably just venting stress out on you, like NWO was saying. If he should bring it up then this bothers him and might require a chat.

[A LIGHT TO YOUR TRUTH]

I explained I am not out doing anyhting except excersize and while hes working..i still come home after 9 1/2 hour workday do homework,excersize and hour,cook,clean a little get kids in bed and then I have a little time to take shower go to bed....He thinks I should just be at home ...He says I can't stay home I gott eb doing somthing.....we're off on weekends togther he just wants to sleep all day...while i sit there ...and when I wanna do somthing he says ..Oh why cant u just sleep with me all day...I CAN'T SLEEP ALL DAY PLUS MY KIDS R THERE...sigh......weekends I wanna do somthing....anyways..I can't see why now he says he's gonna go out more with friends because i WORKOUT EVERYDAY.......*SHRUGGS?

[A LIGHT TO YOUR TRUTH]

I have a question.....This morning on wat to work My Husband starts an arguement with me ......Let me first say I have been working out(excersize) with my friend of 17 years we both have 2 children so we workout and deal with our kids at same time.. for at least 1 hour 1/2 mon-fri after work...then she takes us home. well my husband started an arguement this morning saying..."Must be nice to hang out with your friends everyday hanging out" He said: why can't you stay home..u always gotta be doing something" I said:I am working out excersizing.....im not partying or doing anything else..we workout she takes me home.......then he said:well I'm gonna start hanging out with my friends..i'm gonn start going out too more....

This makes no sense to me...I am not going out or hanging out ..my firend and I are excersizing to stay healthy ..look better for ourselves!! How is this hanging out....I am so upset ......please anyone can give me some insight....i need to vent..this makes no sense to me !!??? Am I wrong for what I am doing ..Should I stay home?????i KNOW THIS IS NOT A THERAPY GROUP i JUST WANTED SOME OPINIONS IS ALL WE ARE ALL CHRISTIANS SISTERS ..

[cfblue]

I think you may want to step back and look at the situation from his point of view. You may not see it as he does. Even though you are working out, you are still getting social time.

[KitsapGirl]

Sounds like he may be under some stress. My DH sometimes does this sort of ranting when he is dealing with something he can't put into words. After 15 years, I've learned to just call it venting.

It could also be that he's truely jealous, and only now voicing it.

My advise? Pray about it. Give it to God. Pray for your DH. If he's going through something, he needs help.