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[SuzyQ]

Please ladies give me some help in being supportive of my husband. He always thinks I never am supportive of him. I have been waiting for several years now for us to move closer to my family. His only son has just graduated college and we sold our house over a year ago. He is a Christian, but does not hear of feel the leading of the Holy Spirit. I have stopped listening to my leadings because I felt like I was always the one who was being lead and I think he should be. Since he is the head of the household. My Uncle called this morning and gave us a great lead, but my hubby is dragging his feet. I believe if this is the job. Apply and all will fall into place. My husband is making me feel so sad and at times angry. If He does not want to move just tell me. We have talked about it and he agrees he wants to move. But I think he could be more involved in his search. He is in a job he is tired of and not really happy there. So that's not holding him in place. I am so discouraged, because my life has been in limbo for almost a year now. I haven't looked for a new job, because I think we will moving soon. We haven't joined our church for same reason. I just want some guidelines to have peace. Because I love the LORD and lately I have felt so much unhappiness. I know this is the day that the LORD has made let us rejoice and be glad in it. But it has become very hard for me to feel that around my hubby. No matter what I'm doing he isn't happy. I eat from stress and have gained too much weight over the last 5 years. I need help in not letting this get the best of me.

[AnnaC]

I feel your pain. I have been in a similar situation. As the wife, we are under the spiritual headship of the husband, and if he is not in God's will then we feel a very big effect in our lives, even if we are not really doing anything wrong!!! I know it sounds so cliche, but I would really counsel you to pray for your husband. In my situation(long story- not going to get into it) I prayed for my husband just a little bit, nowhere near what I should have. And God changed his heart. It was completely out of the blue, not because of anything I said or did, but his attitude about this particular thing changed, almost overnight. It was exactly what i had prayed for. Who knows, maybe if I had prayed mmore, it would have happened sooner! Most of the time it is hard for our husbands to listen to our advice. Not saying that is right or ok, but that's just how it is most of the time. So we have to trust God to change their hearts. And He can do a much better job of it than you or i could.

I hope that helps. Sometimes I'm not so great at getting a point across. But I do know where you're coming from. To feel like your life is in limbo, but its not your fault and there's really nothing you can do about it. :hug Just pray and trust God to move in the situation.

Hopefully the other ladies here will have some more good advice for you too.

[graceforme]

I will be lifting you and your husband up in prayer. My husband, for many years, refused to take his place of responsibility as head of our family. Thank God he came to understand and take his place. Things are so much better now - we talk things over and he respects my feelings. It might not always go my way, but at least he knows how I think. I know what you are going through. Pray, pray, pray, for him. Pray that he will allow God to show him his place as leader of the family. It's hard to sit back and not say what you think, but maybe if you asked him, "Could we sit down and talk about this together just so we understand where the other one is coming from." Maybe he truly doesn't understand how you feel. Letting him know how you feel is not be disrespectful or disobedient to him.

[Lynn]

. . . . but maybe if you asked him, "Could we sit down and talk about this together just so we understand where the other one is coming from." Maybe he truly doesn't understand how you feel. Letting him know how you feel is not be disrespectful or disobedient to him.

Agreed! I, too, have been a little reluctant to speak up sometimes when I was very unhappy about something. Our husbands are not mindreaders. There is a very gentle, loving way to let the head of our homes know what we think. Usually, when I offered suggestions to my dh in the atmosphere described above in graceforme's post, things went very well, and we usually came to an agreement on the issue.

[SuzyQ]

Thanks for prayers, my dh is a good husband. We just need to communicate better. He did apply last night to a few jobs online and I researched some again today. He wants me to help him, since he is working all week. I think sometimes the hardest thing for me is waiting. We are believing and waiting for the LORD to open the door to the job my husband needs for us to move.

I will be praying for hubby for less stress at work and for me to be the helper he needs.

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[Lynn]

Lovely post, Suzy. I think now that you are definitely on the right track.
Bod bless you as you seek to do what is pleasing in the Lord's sight. He will help you, as He has me. You would enjoy www.reviveourhearts.com with the teaching of Nancy Leigh De Moss. Her solid, biblical teaching to women has really helped me so much.

[graceforme]

Lynn, thanks for the link to reviveourhearts.com

I'm going to check it out when I have some more time. God Bless.