~ Children In Heaven ~ 2 Cor 1:3-4

[Amanda's mom]

Amanda's Mom, those little gold or silver fingerprints and foot prints sound so wonderful! When I was standing on line at the grocery store last week, I spotted a sign on the back of the cashier for the March of Dimes. On it was a teeny pair of footprints. It got to me. I kind of went into a fog right there and then. You see, my grandson's footprints were the exact size as on that March of Dimes sign. Sooo teeny, because he was only 1 pound 10 ounces. I mumbled outloud, "they look like Philip's footprints." Then I heard my daughter's voice saying, "Mom.. mom..." she was trying to tell me that one of the other cahier ladies was waving to me and yelling hi to me. But I was just in my own world staring at the footprints.

How can I find out about having this done? Is there a certain company that does it?
I would check with the funeral home that you normally deal with. The funeral director may be able to help you with it. If they don't do this, there is a website, http://www.thumbies.com/, that explains about this. I have the standard charm that is on a long chain. I literally allows the thumbprint to rest over my heart. The other plus is if the chain breaks, my undergarment will safely catch the charm. :aha

[pumkin67]

Glory, :hug like you said, it's different for some people. Some days are different too. Some days I really want to talk about Ricky, but then there are other days that I'm sad and don't want to talk. If your family brings Philip up then they are probably wanting to talk. I have a friend who lost a daughter right after Ricky. I know what it's like to lose an 18 year old son, but I don't know what it's like to lose a 12 year old daughter like she did. We both deal with it differently. I think about people who lose their babies sometimes. I don't know what it would be like. I did get to have some wonderful memories over the years.

I just don't want people to forget Ricky.

We lost Ricky's great grandpa and his grandma within two week before losing Ricky. I alway think about papaw seeing Ricky and saying "well, what are you doing here?" I know that his papaw would have been the first family member that Ricky would have wanted to see. :)

[nannyto3]

I love to talk about Sarah. Even right after Sarah was murdered I wanted to talk about her. I think people tend not to bring her up because they think it would upset me. No way, all I have here on this earth is my memories and I like to talk about her.

[Glory]

You are right pumkin. It IS different for everyone. And I don't think anyone will ever forget Ricky. Even if they don't talk about him with you, I know that he is always in their hearts. :hug

My son never talks about his baby unless I begin first. Yet I know he thinks about him constantly. :( I know his heart aches all the time.

Nobody else mentions him either. I guess I'll just go on as I have mostly been doing, and just quietly continue thinking about him, loving him, and talking to the Lord about him.

Thank you Amanda's mom, for that info.:hug

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[Glory]

I love to talk about Sarah. Even right after Sarah was murdered I wanted to talk about her. I think people tend not to bring her up because they think it would upset me. No way, all I have here on this earth is my memories and I like to talk about her.

:hug your memories, and the LORD will see you through until that day when you are reunited with your Sarah. "Come quickly Lord Jesus!"

[nannyto3]

:hug your memories, and the LORD will see you through until that day when you are reunited with your Sarah. "Come quickly Lord Jesus!"

Amen!!:hug

[Amanda's mom]

:hug your memories, and the LORD will see you through until that day when you are reunited with your Sarah. "Come quickly Lord Jesus!"

Amen.

[jayna]

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Jayna, maybe your son is worried about upsetting you by talking about his brother with you?

I don't believe that there are no children in Heaven.

There are so many threads about our pets in Heaven. Even a thread where so many believe pets will be raptured! WHY do christians believe something such as that? They say because the Lord knows how happy it will make us.

YET, it's so hard to believe that HE will present our babies and children to us in Heaven, in the same appearence as we last saw them??? As a baby or child?! He promises us that we can't even begin to imagine the Joys He has planned for us. What could be a more greater joy then our babies and children being returned to us? I believe that our deepest sorrows HERE will be our greatest joys THERE!

We will recognize each other. I think that every baby, child, teenager, and young adult person who died before they had a chance to reach their prime, will look exactly as we remembered them.

I think your right about Brandon not wanting to upset me and also at times he doesn't want to get upset himself. Its like pumkin said also, some days you feel like talking and some days you don't. There are also days I have to go to work or am busy and don't have time to get upset and maybe thats the very day someone else in my family is down and needs to talk and vice versa. My son thinks about his brother everyday all day just like I do, but as he says he can't dwell on it else he'd go crazy.

I'm glad you think children will still be children in heaven I couldn't imagine heaven without them. Boy, I sure can't wait to get there!!

[jayna]

Got to ask a question.

My surviving son's wife took my grandsons (son that died twins) to the cemetary today after church. One of them got sad and said 'I wish Jesus would come get us so we can be with daddy again'. I would have talked about Jesus coming and what a great promise we have in this.... my dil instead said 'Yes, but daddy would want you to live a very long happy life here on this earth, so you need to strive to be happy here'. The thing is if she lost her daughter I don't think she would be saying that. She sure wouldn't be happy. And I know most of this world believe this way.... that you do strive for a long, happy life here. Is something wrong with me that I don't feel this way too!! I'd rather Jesus come today and can't wait for my grandsons to see their dad again. Her answer didn't sit well with me and I'm depressed now.
I feel like the odd one out because thats how everybody else looks at things too!!

[Amanda's mom]

Got to ask a question.

My surviving son's wife took my grandsons (son that died twins) to the cemetary today after church. One of them got sad and said 'I wish Jesus would come get us so we can be with daddy again'. I would have talked about Jesus coming and what a great promise we have in this.... my dil instead said 'Yes, but daddy would want you to live a very long happy life here on this earth, so you need to strive to be happy here'. The thing is if she lost her daughter I don't think she would be saying that. She sure wouldn't be happy. And I know most of this world believe this way.... that you do strive for a long, happy life here. Is something wrong with me that I don't feel this way too!! I'd rather Jesus come today and can't wait for my grandsons to see their dad again. Her answer didn't sit well with me and I'm depressed now.
I feel like the odd one out because thats how everybody else looks at things too!!
You're not the odd one out, I feel the same way, too. In all of my life, almost 50 years, I can only remember two periods in my life where I was happy: when I was a pre-schooler at home with my mom and when I was an at-home mom with Amanda. I so looked forward to her coming home from school every day. She brought happiness in the door with her. Now that's gone forever. I will never on this earth hold that happiness again and the loss is too great to bear. When people tell me that I "need to be happy because she would want me to be." They don't know anything about our relationship and have no right to tell me that. I think Amanda understands why I feel the way I do and would want me to do the best that I could. She wouldn't insist that I pretend to be happy just to please others.