What to do.......long read but please advise

[farfromhome]

I think I would start distancing myself from her starting with picking up and dropping off my own kids all the time.

[InHisSteps]

Seemomgonuts,
I suspect the lady is taking advantage of your friendship. She has forgotten how to be sweet and kind to the people she cares about. Like it or not, she has made a conscious choice to exhibit the behaviors that are resulting in abuse of your friendship. Your self-esteem is at risk. Until she changes her behavior, you need to decide whether or not you want to continue to subject yourself to her abuse. One of my favorite sayings is "You teach people how to treat you." So if you don't like how you're being treated, change it!

[GodwithUS]

I believe that even as Christians we need to re-examine our relationships even with fellow Believers. I would like to add however that when you do this we are still accountable to God with whatever our decisions turn out to be. In other words we still have kind of a "special" relationship or responsibility with that other Believer.

[NewWorldOrder]

Two words:

She's JEALOUS!!!!

Sorry, don't mean to yell, but it really irks me when I see someone act like that towards another person when they are obviously jealous of them. My entire life I was treated like that by my cousins. I didn't come from an afluent family, but at the time, my family was whole and loving and theirs was a mess.

Jelousy is a nasty, horrible thing. You may have to call her on it, 'cause she's wrong. The thing is, that even if you do, she'll deny it.

[Seemomgonuts]

Do you think that maybe she is suffering from PPD? If that is the case then nothing you say or do will help. She needs to see a dr. I bet she is also taking it out on her family

I have had that thought but didn't know how to bring it up with her. :fear

[StinkerBell]

Two things come to mind...PPD, or maybe just generalized exhaustion.

I get real cranky when I dont get my beauty sleep.

Oh yes, stop getting your nails done an stop trying to look your best for your hubby cause it makes the rest of us "Natural" women look bad....:heh
(on a side note, if I was getting my nails done and someone complained about my spending habits I would justify it by saying and placing my finger in my nose..."all the better to pick with")

[wife]

I have had that thought but didn't know how to bring it up with her. :fear

That is a touchy subject. Are you close to them as a couple? Could you have them over for dinner? Do you have a mutual friend that you could open up to? Do you do things that don't involve the kids? Maybe you two could get together and you could (kindly) ask her how she is doing, and maybe mention that she seems "distracted".... I am just thinking out loud.

[buzzbee]

Your words echo my Husband's words.

I really think this is your answer. If you have been praying about it then I strongly believe God's Wisdom will certainly come down through your husband.

I would definately hold back any words that cannot be taken back. Don't lie either. Keep praying for the words and the ability to deliver them.

I have this, in another way, going on too.

[Seemomgonuts]

You are right about that buzzbee. :nod The last big thing that I was praying about, my Husband was the vocal confirmation of what I felt God was saying to me. :nod

Hmmmmmmmm to confirm this theory I will ask Hubby what this week's winning lotto numbers will be. :yay


:lol2 kidding

[MurphtheSquirt]

I've heard that happening even through decent but unsaved spouses. God can use many avenues to get His point across.

Murph