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lisaann
May 15th, 2007, 09:56 AM
I'm a rather blunt person (ask buzzbee lol) and I am firmly of the "The truth will set you free" train of thought.

Be honest with her, but firm. You need a time out. Sometimes it helps to write it out in a letter form.
The thing is, she sounds miserable, so really, there is nothing you can say that she is not going to find a way to be angry about, so she might as well hear the truth. That your husband confirmed it makes it even more evident you need to walk away for awhile. HER bad attitude is imapcting negatively on your family as a whole (if momma aint happy aint no one happy). So in that sense, for the good of your primarey ministry(your family) you have to walk away from her for awhile.

:hug

This was my first thought as well. I know when I get upset with my husband about something I will write it out in a letter. This way you can take your time and really think about what you want to say. It often gets the point across without a fight.

I had a good friend that I had to distance myself from. She was just getting too emotionally exausting for me. She has been bugging me to get together and I told her I was just too busy right now. I imagine I will have to throw her a bone this summer and have her over for lunch or something, but I dont need her kind of stress in my life anymore. It's hard to do I know. :hug

scrappergirl
May 15th, 2007, 10:49 AM
Sometimes it helps to write it out in a letter form.


yeah, i usually do this too (with dh). it helps me organize my thoughts and there is no chance to get interrupted (either by him or by my own inability to stay on track or not cry or whatever).
this is also a good way to make sure nothign is said in the heat of the moment.