Need some opinions/advice

[DH1991]

:wave Hey, what's going on everybody? My name's, David, and I need some much needed Christian opinions/advice about a few things. First off, I'm 20, I'm working part time, and live with my mother and mentally disabled brother. We recently moved because of my parents divorce (I know divorce is wrong btw) but my dad initiated it, my mom is Christian, and was strongly against it, but that's another story altogether haha.

Uhm, alrighty, all of my friends live in my former hometown about 20-30 minutes away. (None are saved, sadly). Now, my problem is that they always want to hangout, but I always drive down to them, they've never made the trip up here, and I don't feel that's right. My friends are also a prime example of the saying "bad company corrupts good character". I tend to act like them if I hangout with them, and I know it's wrong. I feel I should make new friends, but I have none out here, and without them I wouldn't have any friends at all. What makes the situation even harder is we've been friends for a long time, and just flat out ditching them wouldn't feel right. I'd love to make Christian friends, I go to church, but everyone at my church is either very young or middle age/senior.

I've been a Christian for 5 1/2 years, and God has blessed me with much knowledge about Him and what's right and wrong. I feel He's allowed me to mature very quickly as a Christian for a purpose that I don't understand as of yet. Even with how much I know about prophecy and biblical things, this isn't any easier. I've found that when you become a Christian everything becomes harder, finding the right girl to date, the right friends, acting in a righteous manner instead of a worldly manner, etc. To most of you, I'm sure you're thinking "Well it sounds like you already know the answer to this." In a way I do, but I also have trust issues with God at certain times (something He's been helping me with.) I don't know... I just feel like I'll never find true Christian friends. The same goes for a true Christian girl. So many people are saved by mind, but not by heart. They use "Christian" as a title, and nothing more. I know we're in the last of the last days, and things are gonna get worse, I just wish things like this could be easier. I know American Christians have a cake walk compared to people in places like China or The Middle East, but we face our own challenges.

I also feel like I've been a prime target of spiritual attacks. Satan and his demons know that I'm saved, and they know God has blessed me with insight of the end times, and I know he wants to keep me quiet. Sorry for rambling, things are just crazy lol Thanks in advance for any input you may have. Take care.

[Jlutz]

:wave Hey, what's going on everybody? My name's, David, and I need some much needed Christian opinions/advice about a few things. First off, I'm 20, I'm working part time, and live with my mother and mentally disabled brother. We recently moved because of my parents divorce (I know divorce is wrong btw) but my dad initiated it, my mom is Christian, and was strongly against it, but that's another story altogether haha.

Uhm, alrighty, all of my friends live in my former hometown about 20-30 minutes away. (None are saved, sadly). Now, my problem is that they always want to hangout, but I always drive down to them, they've never made the trip up here, and I don't feel that's right. My friends are also a prime example of the saying "bad company corrupts good character". I tend to act like them if I hangout with them, and I know it's wrong. I feel I should make new friends, but I have none out here, and without them I wouldn't have any friends at all. What makes the situation even harder is we've been friends for a long time, and just flat out ditching them wouldn't feel right. I'd love to make Christian friends, I go to church, but everyone at my church is either very young or middle age/senior.


I've been a Christian for 5 1/2 years, and God has blessed me with much knowledge about Him and what's right and wrong. I feel He's allowed me to mature very quickly as a Christian for a purpose that I don't understand as of yet. Even with how much I know about prophecy and biblical things, this isn't any easier. I've found that when you become a Christian everything becomes harder, finding the right girl to date, the right friends, acting in a righteous manner instead of a worldly manner, etc. To most of you, I'm sure you're thinking "Well it sounds like you already know the answer to this." In a way I do, but I also have trust issues with God at certain times (something He's been helping me with.) I don't know... I just feel like I'll never find true Christian friends. The same goes for a true Christian girl. So many people are saved by mind, but not by heart. They use "Christian" as a title, and nothing more. I know we're in the last of the last days, and things are gonna get worse, I just wish things like this could be easier. I know American Christians have a cake walk compared to people in places like China or The Middle East, but we face our own challenges.

I also feel like I've been a prime target of spiritual attacks. Satan and his demons know that I'm saved, and they know God has blessed me with insight of the end times, and I know he wants to keep me quiet. Sorry for rambling, things are just crazy lol Thanks in advance for any input you may have. Take care.


Are you going to school? That seems a logical place to make new friends. If your not going to school, what are you doing? Working part time living with mom, isn't going to attract many women. I would focus on figuring out what your doing with your life first and other things will fall into place. You will find out soon that many high school friendships don't make it long term anyway.

[DH1991]

I'm currently looking into school, and my boss is looking to move me to full time soon. I don't really have a hard time attracting women, it's that the girls I attract are usually unsaved. We're told to not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. The girl situation really isn't my main problem. I'm just trying to get advice from anyone who's dealt with the problem of having an unbelieving group of friends, and how I could go about breaking away from them. Ever since the divorce and moving, I've had to start fresh with certain areas, and I'm finally starting to get back into a normal routine. Thanks for the response btw.

[Mtown]

(I dont want to hi-jack your thread, just want to share that I am in the same boat to a degree and feel your pain). But I am a recently born again christian of about a month and I am having a similar problem as you. None of my friends are saved and always call and want to hang out...which means drinking, clubs, bars, etc...I try to avoid them and haven't had the courage to tell them I no longer wish to do those things and I am saved. I am 30 years old and these are life long friends...I understand the feeling of betrayal or leaving them, confused to say the least and I have been praying about this for a while now. Any advice for the OP and me would be appreciated!!

[DH1991]

Yeah, it's definitely not easy. Once you become saved it's extremely difficult to feel comfortable hanging out with an unsaved group of people. It can make a Christian stumble, that's for sure.

[Steve53]

Seek God's will for your life not the will of your friends. Tell your friends you're a born again Christian and what that means to you - and to them (if you haven't already). If they're your true friends, they'll eventually call/come around. Make them want to aspire to be more like you, not the other way around.

[April]

You say you ALWAYS Have to be the One to Drive to them (you said in your post).
If, they are true friends of yours, why is that your the one always going to them, and them not coming your way.
It sounds like you are being Used, by your "friends".
You said, you would have no friends. You are truly never Alone.
And too make new friends, you have to get out there in your new place. Ask your church, if there is Clubs in the community you could join.
But. being around the wrong people, who refuse to come to you and change their behavior is people you honestly don't need to be around.
IMHO.

[Hisway]

You say you ALWAYS Have to be the One to Drive to them (you said in your post).
If, they are true friends of yours, why is that your the one always going to them, and them not coming your way.
It sounds like you are being Used, by your "friends".
You said, you would have no friends. You are truly never Alone.
And too make new friends, you have to get out there in your new place. Ask your church, if there is Clubs in the community you could join.
But. being around the wrong people, who refuse to come to you and change their behavior is people you honestly don't need to be around.
IMHO.

Hit the nail on the head. I have alot of friends, but really true friends I can count on one hand. A true friend would go to the other side of the world to see you. Don't worry about it as true friends will reveal themselves to you as life goes on. :thumb

[Mtown]

Seek God's will for your life not the will of your friends. Tell your friends you're a born again Christian and what that means to you - and to them (if you haven't already). If they're your true friends, they'll eventually call/come around. Make them want to aspire to be more like you, not the other way around.

That's how I've been going about it. It's just a tough thing to do, so many people around me and none are saved(except my family, thank the Lord). I seem to have this block of being able to tell people that I'm changed, I guess for fear of rejection, etc. I will keep praying and do my best to obey God.:pray

To the OP, I think you got some good answers on what to do, and I think like me prayer and time and God will sort it all out.:hat

[HisVessel]

God can use any situation for good. In your case it sounds like something good could come out of the bad situation of your parents divorce. The divorce is not fun and neither was moving but maybe God is placing you in a new situation where you can get a new start with christian friends. Wait patiently and it will be ok to let go of your old friends especially if they are influencing you in a bad way. This is a great time to start over, take advantage of the opportunity.