People who don't like you...

[TravisandJill]

How do you handle a situation where someone just doesnt like you, for no reason at all? I knew it would happen eventually but there is this teacher at the school I work at who just doesnt like me. I have only met her twice but every time she see's me she glares at me. She never smiles or even really pays attention to me other that the glaring. I have no idea what I ever did to her to make her be so mean to me. It just drives me nuts because I am always so nice to the people I meet and go out of my way to smile and say hello. I can handle someone not liking me for something I did, but I cannot handle someone not liking me "just because". I guess I have a real fear of not fitting in or being rejected :(

Does anyone have any words of advice on how to handle this situation?

[ChristineMarie]

Oh I can so empathize. I am one of these people that go outta my way to make sure to be nice to peple and make them comfortable.

I will be waiting for a response too. In the same boat.

BTW, hi in Tx.
http://www.traviscottrell.com/
Love the name Travis fav. worship leader...he does; I have a friend in God, "He calls me Friend"

[NewWorldOrder]

You could just come right out and ask her. "Hey lady, why're you glarin at me?!"

No, just kidding. Don't do that.

I don't know, but I had that happen to me a long time ago at a place I used to work. I came back from maternity leave, and while I was gone, my boss hired a new secretary. When I came back, I tried to be nice to her, but all she ever did was glare at me, and stare at me. It was really strange. Then I found out, after spending much time trying to get to know her, that she had been married for 5 years, and really wanted a baby, and on top of that she was overweight. Well, here I was just back from having my first baby, and I had lost all the baby weight; you couldn't tell I had just had a baby (wish I could say that now). So, anyway, she was a bit jealous. She eventually lightened up, and we became friends.

So, I would say just continue being nice to her. Try talking to her to get to know her, and maybe you'll find out what's eating at her.

[jadeeyes]

How do you handle a situation where someone just doesnt like you, for no reason at all? I knew it would happen eventually but there is this teacher at the school I work at who just doesnt like me. I have only met her twice but every time she see's me she glares at me. She never smiles or even really pays attention to me other that the glaring. I have no idea what I ever did to her to make her be so mean to me. It just drives me nuts because I am always so nice to the people I meet and go out of my way to smile and say hello. I can handle someone not liking me for something I did, but I cannot handle someone not liking me "just because". I guess I have a real fear of not fitting in or being rejected :(

Does anyone have any words of advice on how to handle this situation?

The first thing to do is pray for her. Add her to your prayer list and pray for her every day. Don't just ask God to change her heart and her attitude towards you. Ask Him to also change her heart, mind and attitude towards Him. It may be that she dislikes you because, deep inside, she senses the Holy Spirit in you and is convicted of her sin. Being convicted makes us pretty uncomfortable. The next thing to do is to stop worrying about it. Jesus Himself told us that we would be hated because He was hated first. If you can't stop fretting about it, confess that to the Lord and tell Him that you can't stop fretting on your own; tell Him that you need and want Him to help you to stop being anxious about this situation. Next, treat her with the same kindness you treat everyone else with. If you're already doing that, then keep up the good work! :hug

[topekaclark]

It happens to me too. Not to sound kiddish, but it does hurt ones feelings.

I do continue to be nice and go out of my way so that person has too acknowledge me.

There is a passage in the bible about being kind to your enemy is similar to pouring heaping coals on top of their head.

[Deepcallstodeep]

The first thing to do is pray for her. Add her to your prayer list and pray for her every day. Don't just ask God to change her heart and her attitude towards you. Ask Him to also change her heart, mind and attitude towards Him. It may be that she dislikes you because, deep inside, she senses the Holy Spirit in you and is convicted of her sin. Being convicted makes us pretty uncomfortable. The next thing to do is to stop worrying about it. Jesus Himself told us that we would be hated because He was hated first. If you can't stop fretting about it, confess that to the Lord and tell Him that you can't stop fretting on your own; tell Him that you need and want Him to help you to stop being anxious about this situation. Next, treat her with the same kindness you treat everyone else with. If you're already doing that, then keep up the good work! :hug

Well said, jadeeyes... it is probably something in her and not you. Something that makes her feel uncomfortable or resentful, and could be the coviction of the Holy Spirit. Definitely a case for extra prayer and kindness.

And something my mom told me once when I was about 13... "Not everyone is going to like you in this world, honey. No matter how nice you are."

Ask God for discernment about how this other teacher interacts with others... is she feeling left out? Is she just not a "bubbly" person? Ask God to help you with a word or action in season. Sometimes people just resent friendly, happy people... maybe God will give you an opening sometime to explain that your happiness comes from Him dwelling within you! :)

[fishersofmen]

maybe its spiritual, maybe she has affections for demons, and they surround her.

just a thought.

[ChristineMarie]

You know what that just hit me before I even read your(above) post. We know in these times, That he will be hated for "His" name. Remember we are sealed.

I totally agree with the prayer.


C- Cry out
a- ask
r- receive
r- release
y- yield


I just recently taught this is to my "spiritual" pain management therapist.

[Sing4Him]

:target

But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you Matt 5:44

Remember the word that I said unto you, The servant is not greater than his lord. If they have persecuted me, they will also persecute you; if they have kept my saying, they will keep yours also John 15:20

[jorjean]

You don't say in your post, is this someone you get to work with? If so you might just ask her if you have offended her, and aplogize.

I agree with some of the other postings. Sometimes people just don't like you. I had a teacher say to me "Some will, some won't, so what?" As long as you know that we love you and God loves you, "So what?"