A question for you ladies.

[Comfort me]

Why do some of you want your husbands all to yourselves? I have a friend who moved back after being away for twenty years. He is not a Christian and was a wild guy back in the day. He married a woman who was a stripper when she was young and now she just sits around the house. They have two children. I have been over to witness to them and she looks at my friend like I'm crazy. She then informs me that she is the one who truly loves my friend and I can't meet his needs like she can. I'm like I have been his friend since we were four and we are 38 and 39 now. I was stopping by maybe once every two weeks for a hour. I was not hanging around trying to take over his life. He now informs me he will be busy all fall so don't bother asking him to go to a ball game. I can tell he is a very beaten down person. He shows no joy. He laughs a little and my sense of humor and that is about it. I wanted them in eternity with me and to serve Jesus. His wife obviously feels threatened by me. His mother has become a Jahovah's witness but she stays away from me. Oh, I failed to mention they are living with his parents as they are trying to get back on their feet as far as finances are concerned. Why are some of you so threatened by your dh's friends?

[Biblecat2]

IMHO Comfort me, it's ok to have male married friends, buts it's not appropriate for the two of you to be "hanging out" together, and going to ball games together, just the two of you, it would be like a date, don't you think?. This is her husband, and the two of them are one flesh. To honer her he should not be going places with you as he is married. This is making her uncomfortable, and she shouldn't have to share him with anyone. JMHO

[TravisandJill]

I told my Dh that he could have as many female friends as he wanted, and long as I could have as many male friends as well. Needless to say he didn't like that. So we agree to not have close friends of the opposite sex. I'm sure DH would hate it if I became best buds with his male friends KWIM?

[ByHisGrace]

I believe ComfortMe is a guy.....although I might be wrong.

[MochaMel]

I personally don't have a problem with it; as long as it's not a every weekend event.. And it doesn't sound like that is the case with you.

I actually encourage my hubby to do things like this; i prefer it be with christian friends though; i'm not as comfortable with some of the non-christians and my hubby knows that too. As far as female friendship; to go out and about with uh NO way! I am the only woman in his life.. lol

It's good for a man to have friends outside of his family; women do why can't he? Now when i wasn't a christian and in my early 20's it was different but it's not like i was dating great guys; most of them couldn't be trusted with anything..

FYI: I do believe Comfort me is a guy and his friend is a male too.

Pray about is; maybe it's not the right time for his conversion; but keep that door open b/c he may be coming to you soon for a chat; and as long as that door is open he'll feel welcome to come to you..

Just my 2 cents.

[Biblecat2]

I believe ComfortMe is a guy.....although I might be wrong.

My bad :lol2, I assumed you were a woman. I should of asked :doh That would be very different indeed. Guys should have male friends to do things with, especially the things that a wife wouldn't want to do, i.e. a football, of baseball game, hockey, hunting...eek! There might be some other issues that is causing his wife to be insecure about you. Patnmel has a good advise to pray about it, you might just have to walk away.

[AnnaC]

I think it is very healthy and important for guys to have guy friends. I actually encourage my husband to hang out with his guy friends when he has the time. He works so much that he doesn't get much time to just hang out with friends. Thankfully though, he has a couple close friends that stay close with him even though they don't see each other a lot. I think it is very important for him to have guy friends that he can confide in.

[wife]

How well does she know you?? Maybe she is uncertain about who you are and what you 2 would do together.

[Comfort me]

Yes, I am a male. So is my friend. I do not drink or smoke. My friend does. I think my influence would be positive. I have mentioned I am also married and I believe there should be times where it's ok to hang out with your old friends.

[wife]

Yes, I am a male. So is my friend. I do not drink or smoke. My friend does. I think my influence would be positive. I have mentioned I am also married and I believe there should be times where it's ok to hang out with your old friends.

Try doing something together with your wives. I don't have a problem with my husband doing things with other guys. Did your friend maybe have a problem before he moved back with doing too much with 'the guys" and not enough with his wife?

I think that maybe she just needs to get to know you and your family better. Yes, you two have known each other your whole lives but she doesn't know you....give her time