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Surafel
May 4th, 2009, 06:34 PM
I myself was sexually abused as a child, by a friend of my family. This woman forced me to watch pornography with her from the time I was 6 until I was 12. From that point by adolescents kicked in and I was hooked, this was an almost everyday event for me. I was addicted by the age of 10 Id say, and have found it very difficult to cope with ever since. I never really thought of it as wrong, until I became born again at the age of 20, and conviction took over. Now I still notice the effects it has even on my married life, I have always looked at women as objects, instead of how I view my wife, as a precious gem.
Its a very difficult battle, and one I fight with everyday, yet I have submitted it unto the Lord, and I know He will deliver me!

Joshua

I was shown pornography by a "friend" at an age deemed a little bit too young, but I had an idea of what it was...but that does not compare at all to your situation! I am so sorry! :( And yet, I am glad that you have asked Jesus Christ to help you with this temptation! That is the best way to fight it, Joshua. :)

HeLivesInUs
May 4th, 2009, 06:47 PM
Wow that is mind boggling! My condolences man. 6 years old is way too young to be exposed to something like that. I hope Jesus does deliver you from it soon.

Yeah, I find myself wondering sometimes why its such a struggle. I blame myself, especially after I hear one of those sermons when a preacher says, "you need to stop blaming your problems on people from your past". Well I dont blame her, I know now she was controlled by something far worse than her flesh. I use deliverance as a method of subsiding the demonic oppression that comes against me, and also for the temptations. Without the Lord and and His sword of a Word, Im useless!

Praise God, He is with me!

CID03
May 4th, 2009, 07:22 PM
Yeah, I find myself wondering sometimes why its such a struggle. I blame myself, especially after I hear one of those sermons when a preacher says, "you need to stop blaming your problems on people from your past". Well I dont blame her, I know now she was controlled by something far worse than her flesh. I use deliverance as a method of subsiding the demonic oppression that comes against me, and also for the temptations. Without the Lord and and His sword of a Word, Im useless!

Praise God, He is with me!

I think what bothers me more than anything is how weak I am to say no. Even when I am "surfing", I am telling myself that I don't need to be doing this, but then I begin to justify it, you know, just gonna take a peek and then it is all downhill from there.

I think about the 7th chapter of Romans where Paul is talking about the sin living inside him causing him to do these things even though he delights in God's laws and wants to do right, he can't seem to do it. "What a wretched man I am! Who will rescue me from this body of death? Thanks be to God - through Jesus Christ our Lord!" (Romans 7:24,25)

m2pinggggggg
May 4th, 2009, 08:42 PM
To the married guys.

What exactly is it that attracts you to porn?

I am a single guy and like all of you I too struggle with it. I'm trying to understand exactly why married men struggle with it so much.

I have a couple of theories:

1. Married men have wives that deny them physical intimacy for whatever reason. I've heard of men who are intimate with their wives once every 2-3 months if lucky.

2. Married men do not find their wife attractive, and get hooked mentally on the exaggerated features of the women in pornography.

What other reasons are there?

I think it could be way easier than this; It starts with loneliness, boredom, too much time on your hand, fun ( for not very long), selfishness to God first ( yourself, wife, etc..) but mostly loneliness. Once you spend time alone with God more, His word, and prayer, there's truly a relationship that starts growing. To stop the relationship and get lonely again, just stop the above.

m2pinggggggg
May 4th, 2009, 08:47 PM
Men flip flop things around;
A. It should be Spiritual,
B. Mental,
C. Physical
in how we respond to our wife
Our problem;
We make C, B,A, happen on demand. It's definitely about kitchen time!

m2pinggggggg
May 4th, 2009, 08:50 PM
Wow that is mind boggling! My condolences man. 6 years old is way too young to be exposed to something like that. I hope Jesus does deliver you from it soon.

And it happens more than we think. Our pastors son was used this way early on.

Paradigm
May 4th, 2009, 10:23 PM
And it happens more than we think. Our pastors son was used this way early on.

I believe it, how sad :ohno

I had a bunch of issues when I was a kid, but I'm glad exposure to this garbage wasn't one of them.

Paradigm
May 4th, 2009, 10:26 PM
I think it could be way easier than this; It starts with loneliness, boredom, too much time on your hand, fun ( for not very long), selfishness to God first ( yourself, wife, etc..) but mostly loneliness. Once you spend time alone with God more, His word, and prayer, there's truly a relationship that starts growing. To stop the relationship and get lonely again, just stop the above.

I've been cutting out TV for this very reason. Sometimes I can go for weeks without it bothering me, then I'll be watching something stupid, like CSI Miami, and all it takes is 2 or 3 girls in bikinis to totally ruin my day.

I try to stick to Discovery Channel, and on my computer I'm starting to work on my music like I did before. I also have my car which I like to work on as well, so I have enough stuff to do.

Sometimes it's not enough though :(

kermyjo
May 8th, 2009, 02:32 PM
I am on day 51 of a 60 day on-line course at settingcaptivesfree (dot com) I HIGHLY recommend this site. It is Christ based and has been the only thing that has stopped a 25 year struggle with pornography.

I accepted Christ at a young age but I could never kick this addiction EVEN thought I knew it was wrong.

Because of taking this course I was truly broken and now walk with my Lord.

I fear that there are MANY, MANY, MANY men who stuggle with this issue are not ready to confront it. PLEASE do yourself a favor and check it out at the least.

settingcaptivesfree (dot com)

PS - it was a a thread from Raptureready that I found this website - Praise God!

CID03
May 9th, 2009, 10:17 PM
I am on day 51 of a 60 day on-line course at settingcaptivesfree (dot com) I HIGHLY recommend this site. It is Christ based and has been the only thing that has stopped a 25 year struggle with pornography.

I accepted Christ at a young age but I could never kick this addiction EVEN thought I knew it was wrong.

Because of taking this course I was truly broken and now walk with my Lord.

I fear that there are MANY, MANY, MANY men who stuggle with this issue are not ready to confront it. PLEASE do yourself a favor and check it out at the least.

settingcaptivesfree (dot com)

PS - it was a a thread from Raptureready that I found this website - Praise God!

I signed up and just completed my second day of the course. I am hopeful that the Lord will deliver me through this course. God bless and thanks for the link.