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roadrunner570
November 6th, 2007, 10:52 AM
I used to be neck deep in porn and sex addiction. I was "clean" for almost 3 years, but in the past year have had some struggles again. Those struggles were probably from a combination of things.

1.) I lost almost 50 pounds which sent my sex drive through the ceiling and I was not prepared at all for such a change and had some trouble adjusting

2.) increased stress at both work and home..I had just gotten promoted at work and was trying to adjust to the increased responsibility

I have been counselling with my pastor to work through these things. He told me the porn was nothing more than a coping mechanism I was using to deal with stress and other issues. So we've been working on some of those core issues through prayer and Bible study and as I work through those things,the temptations of porn have decreased.

Felkers
November 7th, 2007, 11:19 AM
It is just crazy what technology has done to promote this sin - movies, vcr's, dvd's and now the internet. Next they are working on is holograms.

Felk

stonewallfan
November 7th, 2007, 09:55 PM
Nasty stuff. Do whatever you need to do to get it out of your life. If that means yanking your tv out and putting it out at the curb then do it. if you have to throw your computer out then do it. if you have to drive 15 miles out of your way to avoid a porn shop then do it. the stuff will rot your brains. I battled it for years. the birth of my 2 sons caused me to take sides and not mess around with it. I have to have a good filter on my computer and sometimes I get mad because it filters stuff that it does not need to and I have to be humbled and ask my wife to turn it off so I can look at something but I have to tell her what it is I want to look at. (accountibility) she also has parental controls on the tv....not for my kids but for me. It is embarassing but it has been over a year without porn and I gotta tell you it is a great feeling!!!! When I ever feel a relapse I think about the gutter my mind was and no way do I want to go back. I work in an environment where there is rampant immorality and the fact that God has my mind and not porn has helped my marriage stay the course, stay away from other addictions (gamble, drugs,) many of the men I work with are so lost and it seems one of the direct roots is the addiction to lust.

Get away from it. It will alter your perception of women. My father was and still is addicted to it and it has destroyed his life so much so that he does not know how to interact with women on any level. I had to throw him out of my families life because he begain to come on to my wife because he can not control his compulsions and will disregard any boundry and risk associated with it to feed his compulsion. Bad stuff. I praise God for his healing work in my life with it. I have a ways to go but God continues to minister to me daily in my walk with him. My deepest prayers brother to you:hug You can have victory in Christ!!!

Felkers
November 8th, 2007, 09:08 AM
Wow stonewall fan - that is a great story you tell. What kind of filter are you using on your computer? How did you tell your wife?

felk

Angyl
November 8th, 2007, 09:32 AM
I never really BATTLED with porn, but I did watch it in my younger days, and even briefly after I was married. Then I decided that it was no good and stopped watching it. Kind of cold turkey. I had "relapses" a couple of times a year, but that too has dwindled.

One thought that helped me tremendously to get over the urges that occasionally come:

We know the rapture is coming...

any day, right?

If I get the urge to view porn, I just imagine that trumpet blowing while I'm in the middle of watching that and doing my thing...And you KNOW, one of the biggest questions every believer is going to be asked when we meet each other in heaven will be "What were you doing when the trumpet blew?"

Can you imagine eternity living with the shame of "relieving myself with porn" being your answer?

Stops me better than a cold shower, that thought.

Watchingthesky
November 8th, 2007, 09:49 AM
I never really BATTLED with porn, but I did watch it in my younger days, and even briefly after I was married. Then I decided that it was no good and stopped watching it. Kind of cold turkey. I had "relapses" a couple of times a year, but that too has dwindled.

One thought that helped me tremendously to get over the urges that occasionally come:

We know the rapture is coming...

any day, right?

If I get the urge to view porn, I just imagine that trumpet blowing while I'm in the middle of watching that and doing my thing...And you KNOW, one of the biggest questions every believer is going to be asked when we meet each other in heaven will be "What were you doing when the trumpet blew?"

Can you imagine eternity living with the shame of "relieving myself with porn" being your answer?

Stops me better than a cold shower, that thought.

Wow, I think the same thing!

I was delivered from porn about two years ago. Sad to say that it was an everyday thing for me. I used my work internet to download about 40-50 30-40 second clips daily. The tightrope I walked!

I have had the occasional relapse, and God has showed me that they are all stress-related. What I mean is that the urge to look at the stuff is pretty much gone in my daily life now. I praise God eternally for that! You have no idea what kind of a miracle that is!

When I get seriously stressed, suddenly my mind starts on me. The urges come literally out of nowhere. I relapse as a coping mechanism for the stress. But the relapses have been very brief, thank God! It's kinda cool to think that God is teaching me as I go along about this and exactly how the enemy goes about attacking me and getting to me.

I am a perfectionist at heart, and when I relapse, I am extremely hard on myself about it. But through prayer, God has been quick to shower me with forgiveness and comfort me. I can't tell you how much that has helped me. Instead of being ashamed and down on myself about breaking in this area, I feel God's love, burning up those emotions and keeping me on my feet! I repent and plod forward, growing stronger every day, and I know that God is right there with me and will never abandon me.

I am lucky in that we have a home internet service here who filters the internet for pornography by default. That has been a God-send, literally. So much easier for me at home :)

But as others have said, I would encourage you to pray and seek God. Keep plodding forward. If you haven't been 100% delivered there is something God wants you to learn, that's the way I look at it. I am not 100% delivered yet, but I am so much stronger now through Jesus, who's strength is made perfect in my weakness. And I am weak in the flesh.

God bless you and I'll be praying for you and all of us who have dealt with this.

stonewallfan
November 8th, 2007, 07:51 PM
Wow stonewall fan - that is a great story you tell. What kind of filter are you using on your computer? How did you tell your wife?

felk

"BE SAFE"

I will look for information and BE SAFE will block it. So I will have to go get my wife and tell her what it is I want to look at. She will then unlock the filter for me just so I can look at what it is. It will keep me accountable so there are no secrets. An example at work we will get a good laugh at stuff on Mojo flix. There is this animated polar bear called Benard Bear I mean it is a real hoot. However on the side of the web page it has alot of racy pictures and videos. When I get home I can not pull up Mojo Flix, so I will tell my wife about this latest Benard Bear cartoon and she will open Be Safe for me and we will share a good laugh and then she will lock it back up. She keeps the pass words. It is an embarasment. However it works there are times when I fall and plug a search for a web site but the filter will block it. I repent, and turn off the computer and go spend time with my spouse. It works, not easy but I feel rehabed. I see the anguish on the men I work with that just are moved along the river of sin and where ever the perversion it takes them that is where it goes.


I struggle with it, I know my weakness. Thats why I say in order to get it out of your life initially you need to throw out the computer maybe or put it into storage and give a friend the key. But in time you can begin to get strong. The bible tells us that to resist the Devil and he will flee!

Angyl
November 8th, 2007, 11:33 PM
That's pretty smart, having your wife in to help you in that way. She's a Godly woman for working with you on this rather than making your life difficult as some would.

PrincessofHeaven
November 11th, 2007, 08:56 AM
there is a really good book out, "every mans battle by Stephen Arterburn, Fred Stoeker with Mike Yorkey..... It truly is a great book to help on this.....

Bornsinner
November 11th, 2007, 09:45 AM
Pray without ceasing. Remember, God is with you all the time and that you can talk to him whenever you want. Always take the time to say a prayer. It can be about anything, giving thanks, asking for help, or just talking about anything, When you come to point where God is always on your mind, you'll be less likely to seek out sin. And when you feel a temptation, just say "Lord help me!" Get up, go on a little walk, or turn on the radio and listen to some music.

I know some would say just get rid of your computer/tv/ wherever this temptaion involves, but the truth is, if your mind is in the wrong place, it's still just as easy to fall into temptation.

Also, like the others said, read your Bible, make a reading schedule, maybe find a devotional. Do whatever it takes to keep your mind on the Lord. Remember it's in your heart and mind As long as they are focused on the right things you CAN break free from this addiction. God Bless!:)