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ransomed
April 4th, 2010, 06:11 PM
so what's the best way to really stop a porn addiction? I've been trying myself for quite sometime now, and some weeks it goes pretty well, but sometimes I fall back onto my old habbits (especially when I'm tired or bored). I always feel sooooo guilty after watching, I know God will forgive me if I repent my sins to Him, but I find it pretty hard to forgive myself. So guys, what to do? how to get all this porn nonsense out of my life?

1. www.settingcaptivesfree.com.

2. not to be crass, but stop the self-gratification. if your porn viewing time doesn't end with a happy ending, you probably won't be that interested in it anymore. next time you want to look at a site, pray through it and ask Jesus to deliver you.

3. think of everything that causes you to stumble and throw it away. repent of it. ALL OF IT. throw away the videos and DVDs. get rid of the channels. end the magazine subscriptions. every last bit of it is TRASH, and try to see it that way even if it looks really enticing. if you give Satan a millimeter he takes a mile. resist the devil and he will flee from you.

lostdog
April 5th, 2010, 03:00 AM
Thanks for the replies! :thumb

Snellen
April 5th, 2010, 12:15 PM
I've also struggled horribly with pornography. When I was single, I viewed pornography in one form or another probably 5-6 days a week. Its so shameful to think about now I can hardly bear it.

Thankfully, I admitted my weakness to Jesus and prayed for him to help me overcome this addiction and it has worked well. I still unfortunately relapse every few months, but for the most part I've defeated the addiction and constant perverse thoughts I used to have.

Some tips that worked for me:

-I'm left-handed so this was easy for me: When I was going to "do the deed" I would have to remove my wedding ring. Many many times when I was tempted, I was able to overcome temptation by just thinking of my wife and how this would hurt her. If you're right handed, wear a ring with a cross on it or some other reminder of your promise to Jesus and it may help you stop.

-If you look at stuff on the computer, set your homepage to your church website or some other Christian site. When you open the browser, you will see this first. Also, the often mentioned software that many others recommend.

-This one is kinda corny but it really worked for me: When you feel really tempted, drop and give me 50! Seriously, drop to the floor and fire off as many pushups as you can until total fatigue. Wait 1 minute while saying a short prayer, then do it again. You will be so exhausted and the urge will hopefully subside.

Hope this helps and I'll pray for all you.

In need of grace
April 24th, 2010, 04:44 PM
Bad day today.. For some reason out of the blue as it happens with me I looked at porn about 5 times.. I'm ashamed.. But can't quit.. It's a sickness.. Along with sexual deires and sexual sin.. I can have small victories.. But then ceratin days not even be in the battle.. How Jesus could love and forgive me I have no idea.. This has been pretty much a life long battle..

regionsteve
April 29th, 2010, 10:09 AM
Praying for all of us who struggle.:pray

CID03
April 30th, 2010, 07:31 PM
Bad day today.. For some reason out of the blue as it happens with me I looked at porn about 5 times.. I'm ashamed.. But can't quit.. It's a sickness.. Along with sexual deires and sexual sin.. I can have small victories.. But then ceratin days not even be in the battle.. How Jesus could love and forgive me I have no idea.. This has been pretty much a life long battle..

I feel your pain bro. Many christian men struggle with this. Your experience is no different than any of ours so hang in there and stay focused on Jesus. I also ask myself all the time, "How could Jesus love me" when I do the things I do or think the things I think. And then I am reminded of his grace coming down like a rainstorm all over me and that just draws me back closer to him. :pray

Battle Plan
May 1st, 2010, 09:18 AM
In need of grace: The grace is there from the Lord.

It is a very tough battle brother. I struggled for many years until I realized I was addicted. Are you involved with any accountability partner or group?? Have you ever confessed this sin to anyone other than The Lord?

Only after I confessed to my brothers and eventually my wife, did the bonds of pornography start to lose their grip on me.

Contact me if you need to talk.

Brian

discdog98
May 1st, 2010, 09:45 AM
Wow stonewall fan - that is a great story you tell. What kind of filter are you using on your computer? How did you tell your wife?

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In need of grace
May 1st, 2010, 10:45 AM
In need of grace: The grace is there from the Lord.

It is a very tough battle brother. I struggled for many years until I realized I was addicted. Are you involved with any accountability partner or group?? Have you ever confessed this sin to anyone other than The Lord?

Only after I confessed to my brothers and eventually my wife, did the bonds of pornography start to lose their grip on me.

Contact me if you need to talk.

Brian Hey Brian.. Yeah my best friend is a youth pastor and we talk often.. It was only about three months ago that both of us got together and confessed life long secrets and sin.. It was great.. I felt so much lighter afterwards and he did as well.. But we dont get to talk too often anymore. He has a one year old baby and his life is very busy right now.. I do feel like I'm in this battle all alone.. I've been divorced for over 5 years now.. I went through dark times after divorce.. Done stupid things.. Went out with wrong women.. Although I will say this.. While single I had plenty chances to have sex with certain girls.. I never would... I was much stronger.. I fell twice... Once with a life long friend I grew up with.. And another time with a girl I had known about a year... But after getting over the hurt of divorce and finally getting well emotionally.. I stepped out of the dating game.. "or sewer" as I call it.. I could have cared less about dating... Then I met Amy.. My girlfriend... We've been together for nearly three years now.. We knew better than to have sex... We fought it.... And fought it... Then we fell... Fell hard... It was non stop... My heart became so hard that I didn't care anymore.. All I wanted was sex.. That went on for a year I would say.. Then.. As God does... He started dealing with me... Asking me if this is what I really want.. I ran to him... Amy and me we talked... We prayed... We done good for a while... But we always fell... We're better than we use to be... We have small victories.. We have short seasons... Then one day all of a sudden the urge is so powerful. I know the answers.. I know what the word says... There's times when I'm with her and I'm wanting it and I'm repeating those verses in my head.. The whole time saying you better not do this!! But I do... And right after.. Guilt and shame... Me thinking... How in the world can I pray again about this? I've thought and thought why am I like this? I'm messed up... I asked God one day why am I like this? Then I started remembering my childhood.. I remember looking at my Grandad's playboy mag's at about 7 years old.. I was just curious... I think when your brain gets those images in it.. and you get that rush.. The addiction is on.. Me and my friends would watch their parents porn in the summertime when we were out of school and they were at work.. That was at age 10-12 or so.. The older you get.. The worse it gets.. It's like a drug.. But I think worse.. If you get off drugs or alcohol you can pretty much stay away from it.. With lust you cant.. Drugs dont walk around the mall on Saturday nights wearing short skirts.. Drugs dont pull up beside you at a redlight.. Drugs dont bother you at the grocery store while just trying to buy some ice cream or something.. This flesh is everywhere.. The porn thing... I can go months upon months with no problem.. Then one day... I fall... and fall hard..... It's like a battle for my very soul.. I'm glad I'm not the only one struggling with this.. And yes... I admit I'm addicted

libik
May 4th, 2010, 05:07 PM
Praying for all of you, keep me in your prayers as well, it's not an easy battle we will fall sometimes, but we have to get back up and keep fighting, you're only in trouble if you give up. No Temptation has seized you except what is common to man, and God is faithful Who will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear, but will with the temptation also provide the way of escape that we may be able to bear it. I Cor. 10:13, also If we confess our sins He is faithful and just to forgive us of our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. 1 Jn 1:9