problems w/ temptations

[slugman]

I am having trouble with a co-worker...a female... who I have had an affair with. I am married to a wonderful woman with 3 great kids. We have been married for 30 years, and I am, for the most part, happy. I want to stop this behavior, but when I am around her I lose all discipline. I am so sick of this and I am having a terrible time living with this. I have never spoken about this to a living soul until now. I am trying to get back close to God, I have asked for forgiveness...but I am so weak at times. Has anyone else suffered with something like this? I need advice from godly men who have had to deal with these terrible temptations...

[antitox]

You are weak with her because you have compromised your morals with her. That created an emotional link between both of you. What has to happen, is you have to come to the place where you are willing to break it. You are continuing to entertain thoughts with her and you have to become resolute in dealing with it, but you must make that decision in your heart and sincerely ask for the Lord's help.

[living4JC]

Slugman....you need to cut all ties with this woman if possible. Even going to the extreme measure (if possible) of finding a new job, getting transferred, etc. I've been where you're at, and it nearly destroyed my marriage. Only by the grace of God, has my wife forgiven me (and God of course), and the Lord has brought me closer than ever to him. But you need to find yourself a group of godly men to hold you accountable locally, meet with them regularly, and make sure that you're not around this woman.

[A Berean]

Flee also youthful lusts: but follow righteousness, faith, charity, peace, with them that call on the Lord out of a pure heart."

(2 Tim. 2:22)

FLEE from this , Slugman. Run like the wind to escape this entanglement. Do whatever it takes to get away from this woman, and stay away. Repent and return to the Lord.

[HeIsEnough]

Run. It will destroy you. Harden your heart against your lust of her.


Genesis 39

8 But he refused. "With me in charge," he told her, "my master does not concern himself with anything in the house; everything he owns he has entrusted to my care. 9 No one is greater in this house than I am. My master has withheld nothing from me except you, because you are his wife. How then could I do such a wicked thing and sin against God?" 10 And though she spoke to Joseph day after day, he refused to go to bed with her or even be with her.

11 One day he went into the house to attend to his duties, and none of the household servants was inside. 12 She caught him by his cloak and said, "Come to bed with me!" But he left his cloak in her hand and ran out of the house.

Repent. Cry out to God for help, forgiveness, mercy. Above all, commit your life to purity from this day forward.

[A Berean]

Run. It will destroy you. Harden your heart against your lust of her.



Repent. Cry out to God for help, forgiveness, mercy. Above all, commit your life to purity from this day forward.

AMEN!!!!

[HeIsEnough]

AMEN!!!!

:nod

...and further. Re-commit your life to your wife.


Proverbs 5

18 May your fountain be blessed,
and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth.

19 A loving doe, a graceful deer—
may her breasts satisfy you always,
may you ever be captivated by her love.

[slugman]

I have prayed today in ernest for God's direction and forgiveness and direction for my life. I have the most difficult time "hurting" someone...even this woman. I know that ties have to be cut.. You see, I am an ICU nurse and I deal with so much human misery and death that sometimes for me to cause it to someone else is hard. I am also a soldier in the army reserve... a nurse... with my youngest son in basic training (infantry) and my daughter's fiance deploying to Iraq this thursday, and the thought that I may have to go also. I truly believe that the enemy has put my path across this woman's path to keep my effectiveness to a minimum, with my family and with my patients. Does this make sense? I seem to live with so much turmoil in my heart... and I know my distance from God is the reason. Thankyou all for your concerns and godly advice.

[A Berean]

I have prayed today in ernest for God's direction and forgiveness and direction for my life. I have the most difficult time "hurting" someone...even this woman. I know that ties have to be cut.. You see, I am an ICU nurse and I deal with so much human misery and death that sometimes for me to cause it to someone else is hard. I am also a soldier in the army reserve... a nurse... with my youngest son in basic training (infantry) and my daughter's fiance deploying to Iraq this thursday, and the thought that I may have to go also. I truly believe that the enemy has put my path across this woman's path to keep my effectiveness to a minimum, with my family and with my patients. Does this make sense? I seem to live with so much turmoil in my heart... and I know my distance from God is the reason. Thankyou all for your concerns and godly advice.

Brother, you have ALREADY hurt this woman spiritually by comitting adultery with her. Ask her forgiveness, get out of this mess. God will most certainly judge adultery, because He tells us so in His Word. Get your life in order and do what you know is right to do in the eyes of God. REPENT and make things right with God and humans.

[4given]

How would you feel if you found out your wife was having an affair?

Once that trust is broken it is almost impossible to re-establish. Can you live with the guilt? It obviously is affecting you, so you have a conscience. You will never be free from it without a complete confession to all affected parties.