Anyone know......

[RachelsDream]

Hi Everyone....

I have been off RR for awhile and just at times lurk.:wave

I am homeschooling both of my children. They are 15 and 8. Here is the problem I need help with: My fiance has his children in traditional school, and their is a kind of "tug of war" brewing between us regarding homeschooling. He sees how my children are progressing well, but still concludes that they learn more in Traditional school.

Is there any site that I may show him that displays the high scores or stats on children going to College that have been homeschooled? I read several articles in the past regarding the success rate of Homeschooled children when applying at various Colleges. I feel this might make him feel a little more comfortable with homeschooling. Thanks a bunch! Miss everyone.....:hug

Rachel :hat

[topekaclark]

If you look on the web (google it) there are alot of articles regarding hs vs public schools. Parents who hs, their children are testing higher grade levels.

Colleges are recognizing hs children, are self-learns, academically focused and active in politics, etc. Hs children are also scoring higher on SAT/ACT.

HSLDA has articles. I had several too, look me look through my emails.

On a personal note, some families at our church had their children tested and they are scoring higher grade levels.

[topekaclark]

HSLDA has lots of articles, I'm not computer savvy enough to know how to post the websites.:idunno

My 15 year old can do it, some days I feel like my mother.:lol2

[NewWorldOrder]

Wow! You seem to have a dilemna. Is he wanting you to put your kids in school, and are you wanting to homeschool his kids?

I don't have any statistics, but I'm really curious how you're going to work this out.

[Lynn]

Rachel, if this man is your fiance, you already have a serious difference. The manner in which the young are educated is very significant, (without my stating which I think is better). Just want to focus now on the fact that you & he are already on opposite sides of an extremely important matter. Are you willing to do the 'hard work' of trying to convince him that hs is better than public education? After marriage, will he insist that you educate your children in a manner preferred by him, simply because it will be 'easier' on everyone's schedule to have the children in the same type of school setting? If he consents to your choice of continuing to home school your children, will he inwardly resent the time commitment that you have to make in order to succeed at this very daunting task?

This is no small matter, and I would give this whole education issue a lot of thought with full disclosure and discussion of your expectations and whether or not you are willing to compromise. What about your children? What are their feelings about being hs? Would they be happy in a different setting?
Sometimes long engagements are good so that people can take the time needed to work through these kinds of issues. Blessings to you. :hug

[HSmomto4]

I agree with Lynn! This is a big red flag right now and this has to be solved before you can become married.

[lisaann]

I agree with Lynn! This is a big red flag right now and this has to be solved before you can become married.

Ditto. If nothing else you need to have this completely ironed out before you say 'I do'. :hug If this is a commission that you feel is from God then God needs to win. How are you going to handle it if your future dh want's you to go against what God has given you to do?

Here are some articles on HSLDA:
http://www.googlesyndicatedsearch.com/u/hslda?q=homeschool+vs.+public+school

[MochaMel]

^^ Yes i agree; this is one thing you really want to be in agreement together.... My in-laws are not supportive at all; and even made comments years ago about my hubby maybe not liking all my attention to the kids' and other silly arguements :rolleyes

OF course my hubby set the brother in law straight on that pretty quickly when he stayed with us for a short time; as hubby is in full agreement of Homeschooling..

We disagree on little things -- like how much time we spend with reading or ? and when we start each day and making sure chores are getting done.. But nothing about home educating! He is 100% supportive -- i think it would be very hard to hs with a spouse that didn't support us in this...

Just my 2 cents and will be praying for God to show you how to proceed.

[lisaann]

Here's a really good article on socialization:
http://www.hslda.org/docs/nche/000000/00000068.asp

[RachelsDream]

Hi guys.....

Thank you all so much for your input! Yes, have to admit I am concerned over this issue.:tsk One good thing is that we are not in a debate over his children that are presently in school. They live with their mother, and in a different state right now. The concern is over my kids, and any future children we might have. Either way, just as serious to deal with.

We know that we have been put together by the Lord, and have always had the ability to talk things out. We see this as a bump in the road- a rather huge bump that would have to be resolved before going any further.

He knows how much homeschooling means to the kids and I. I believe it being new to him, he is concerned. He sees how I interact with the kids, and they are doing well. My son needs extra help in Math but, as a whole, we are doing fine.

I thank you for all your input, and will look up HSLDA. Has anyone joined? :scratch Also, will look up the articles! :)

Keep us in prayer, and I will update you on how we are doing. Thank you for being so concerned. :hug