Wouldn't U B Mad at Your Husband 4 This?

[Eternally]

About a month ago I cooked some Boars' Head Brats with sauerkraut. I packaged the leftovers together and told DH we could both have a braut sandwich for work.

Well, when I went to went mine, it was gone. DH said 'Oh, I ate it for lunch as a dinner',,, (not as two sandwiches for us both)

OK. I bought another braut this w/e and cooked it with sauerkraut again. THIS time, I told DH I was slicing some for dinner for now, and keeping some big for us to each have a sandwich. Once again he said OK.

Well, after we ate, I went to put up the leftovers, and the only thing left in the kraut was slices. :faint

I asked DH,,,,, AGAIN... and he said 'Oh, I thought you had the pieces for sandwiches cooked separately...... I am sorry, I ate them'. :scratch 'I ruined your sandwich again, didn't I?' :doh


NOW, REMEMBER.... most was in small slices and 4 PIECES were left BIG... ie, LONG to go on a bun......

He ATE ALL 4!!!! and said 'they weren't THAT much bigger!! THEN HOW DID HE JUST GET THE 4 BIG PIECES!!!!!! :shocked

I know, it's STUPID and PETTY!!!! But he doesn't LISTEN!!! And when he DOES listen, he doesn't APPLY it!!!

WHY DIDN"T he ASK if these were the pieces I was talking about???

KEEP in mind, the slices were bite size, no knife needed, The 4 big pieces were 3-4 inches long!

I am SO tempted to go out and get another brats so I can finally have my sandwich!!! :fear

[Live4Jesus]

My DH does this all the time. I get real frustrated too. Especially since my kids also do it. I almost never get more than one helping of anything (cookies, etc) or one soda or any chips or anything because the other people in this house eat everything before I get to it. Even when I've said THIS IS MINE!

[jadeeyes]

Yeah, my husband used to do that stuff all the time too.When I was home and he was working and the kids were in school was the worst time. I finally got to the bottom of his real reasoning for deliberately taking my food for lunch to work with him for his lunch. I'd cook enough for supper the night before to pack a lunch for him and still have leftovers for me. We were on a tight budget and I bought groceries every 2 weeks. I would make a list and stick with it. Then, several days a week, I had to do without lunch because my husband would deliberately take his and mine. He was gaining weight and I was going hungry. I eventually learned that He figured, since I was home, I could just run to the store or a local restaurant for my lunch. I paid all the bills and worked the budget and I think he resented it. He didn't want to do the work of shopping, paying the bills, setting the budget or balancing the checkbook, but he resented having to stick to my budget. So, I handed the whole thing over to him. It was rocky for a few years. He was determined to spend money the way he always wanted to and thought I had been depriving him. Trouble was that, at the end of the money, he still had a lot of unpaid bills left. He finally learned that I hadn't been selfish with the money when I was running the show. I was living within and trying to get him to live within the boundaries of a reasonable and workable budget. I'm so glad I learned the real reason he was taking my lunch and made him deal with reality. It was pretty painful for both of us for a while, but we're better off for it now.

[Eternally]

Well, there IS enough leftover for us both to eat. BUT it is small bite size slices that is not that great for a hamburger bun,,, especially since my whole intent was to have the large strips for the sandwich bun....

So, I am just frustrated that he doesn't think.

and MAD that I have to eat something in a way I did not plan....

[ByHisGrace]

Guys can be so absentminded sometimes, but they're brain is wired way different from ours. When they listen it seems they filter the words they hear into two dept: Important and not important, and that's before it even gets processed in their heads. Kinda like when we get mail and we look for the important stuff like bills.

In a guys world I don't think they care too much about what you're going to do with leftovers. It's filed in the junk, unimportant dept.

For instance! My dad just came back home after spending a weekend with his mother. When he came home my mom asked if there was anything new with the family. He said no. A few days later my mom got an invite for a baby shower for my cousin. So my mom asked my dad "Samantha's going to have a baby shower, did your mom mention this?" My dad said "Oh yeah." My mom said to me.."Now don't you think that qualifies as news? He didn't tell me!" LOL

What's important to you is most likely not important to him. So when you have something important to tell him you might want to alert him: Honey, listen, this is important. (wait till he is looking at you) After you tell him ask him, if he won't mind, to repeat what you just said. And leave notes -- get post it notes. Stick on leftovers "Don't Touch!!!!!"

Hope that helps!

[icebear]

LOL, my hubby does irritating stuff like that too, luckily he HATES sauerkraut and anything that gets cooked in or near it, so i get the yummy stuff all to myself. :thumb

but if i have to i leave notes on things.

i eat lo carb so when i buy certain things to substitute for things i'd have if i weren't on a LC eating plan.... like cream cheese stuffed jalapeno poppers, i can't have those on LC, so i substitute with frozen weaver buffalo wings. I buy hubby and daughter the poppers and tape a note to the hot wings claiming them for myself and reminding them that the poppers are all theirs.

sometimes i just have to accept that modes of communication are just different sometimes, talking sometimes just dosen't compute with the menfolk, notes writen in neon and affixed with duct tape are usually more effective... and if you can make it a bit funny (mock threat something silly in the "this is mine" note), they are more likely to remember it in the future "don't touch mom's hotwings or she'll stuff your pillow with cream cheese"

:heh

[Racheal59]

LOL, my hubby does irritating stuff like that too, luckily he HATES sauerkraut and anything that gets cooked in or near it, so i get the yummy stuff all to myself. :thumb

but if i have to i leave notes on things.

i eat lo carb so when i buy certain things to substitute for things i'd have if i weren't on a LC eating plan.... like cream cheese stuffed jalapeno poppers, i can't have those on LC, so i substitute with frozen weaver buffalo wings. I buy hubby and daughter the poppers and tape a note to the hot wings claiming them for myself and reminding them that the poppers are all theirs.

sometimes i just have to accept that modes of communication are just different sometimes, talking sometimes just dosen't compute with the menfolk, notes writen in neon and affixed with duct tape are usually more effective... and if you can make it a bit funny (mock threat something silly in the "this is mine" note), they are more likely to remember it in the future "don't touch mom's hotwings or she'll stuff your pillow with cream cheese"

:heh



:lol2:lol2:lol2 So true!

[Racheal59]

My husband eats everything and stays thin. I hardly eat much but when he eats stuff out of the fridge, he won't leave me even a smidgen. And when I ask him to leave me just a little......he gets angry and says.....'IT WILL ROT BEFORE I EVER TOUCH IT AGAIN!" Then I eat a little of it but cannot eat it all (as usual) and it did rot.

SO then he's happy that HE SHOWED ME! HUMPH!

Then I calmly explain that I buy enough so that he can eat most of it and all I'm asking is that he leave me a little not a lot.

We purchased a bag of apples, but he couldn't even leave me one apple. He does that stuff all the time.

Oh I know, I know, many of my friends tell me to HIDE the food for myself. I can't get into that. That would wear me out.

Nothing I can do about it......it's going to be his way or punishment for asking.

So that's the way it is. You take the good with the bad and no sense in getting upset about it. There are worse things in the world to worry about and I figure my time is better spent trying to make things better for those who have it much worse than I instead of fretting about the little things in life.

:) SALT AND LIGHT.

[firstoftwelve]

next time just take the pieces you want for the sandwich out and put them in the fridge right away.

[Racheal59]

That doesn't work, he eats everything he sees in the fridge.