light4mypath
December 16th, 2007, 08:58 AM
Just to give you a little background on my daughter--She just turned 18 a couple of days ago, She id Bipolar, has Borderline Personality Disorder, and is ADHD.....
She likes the shock effect of things. She goes to a psyc doc and a therapist, and when I tell them about her doing things to get a reaction out of me, they simply tell me not to react....:twitch For the most part I try not to. Sometimes it is just HARD. Wed we were eating out for her bday dinner and her boyfriend was there.....she says "Mom, look what Red did when he bit Joes neck" (Red is a new coon pup Joe has), and I looked at it, and it was a hickey. :rolleyes I told her it was a hickey not a pup bite that I wasn't stupid, and asked Joe if the pup really bit him and his face got red. (Joe is a good boy, and won't lie to us), and he shook his head. I then turned to my daughter and said "why do you have to lie? Then the subject was dropped. I just turned away and tried to finish eating.
The day before that, we were out of power again, and DH went up to subway. I wrote on paper exactly what I wanted. She goes up to Subway with DH and he stays in the vehicle yapping on the phone, she goes in and gets the food. When they get home, I am looking for my sandwich........
This is what I ordered:
Turkey w/ bacon
lettuce
tomato
pepperocini
black olives
light vinegar and oil
Italian bread, toasted
THIS is what I got
salami, pepperoni, ham
provelone cheese
cucumbers
lettuce
tomato
peppercoini
green peppers
black olives
mayonaise
bread (don't know what kind), untoasted
:shocked:shocked:shocked
I had it WRITTEN ON A PEICE OF PAPER.......yet she remembered 3 other sandwiches that wasnt written down?
She said she "forgot", yet had the list in her hand. She KNOWS I can not eat pepperoni-- it tears my stomach up....
So I picked off everything and ate 1/2 of the sandwich. I was livid.
The whole time she was sitting there occasionally looking at me.
Wanting a reaction.....
I only ate half of it, and threw the rest away. No body else wanted it.
Yesterday we got over a foot of snow. Her friend cane up here the night before to spend the weekend with her as part of her bday present. Well we got all this snow so her friend was told she needed to go home so she wouldn't get stuck up here. My daughter went with her, and calls me a couple of hours later and says she got her tongue pierced....That was her friends bday gift to her.....:doh I was quiet on the phone. I am sitting here with no power in a cold house, and she is telling me this o the phone......She keeps asking me, are you mad? are you mad? I finally said, "I don't like it......."
She says "well it didn't hurt and it isn't swelling, and I don't want you mad"
I told her she doesn't care what I think, or tell her anyway, so why should it matter now....Still not trying to give her a reaction....
The thing is, I was already upset because they were going to be driving about 55 miles in this snow. It was BAD out, I was a nervous wreck, and was worried they wouldn't make it in one piece. They are just kids, and driving in this is a task for adults. It was all highway from our house to hers.
It is like she goes out of her way to torment me.
She takes meds, for her disorders, but she likes to make me miserable.....
So now she will come home and and all I will here about is this tongue piercing, how do I not react???
She has put me through soooooooooooooooooo much the last couple of years and I am just worn out. Just worn out.
She likes the shock effect of things. She goes to a psyc doc and a therapist, and when I tell them about her doing things to get a reaction out of me, they simply tell me not to react....:twitch For the most part I try not to. Sometimes it is just HARD. Wed we were eating out for her bday dinner and her boyfriend was there.....she says "Mom, look what Red did when he bit Joes neck" (Red is a new coon pup Joe has), and I looked at it, and it was a hickey. :rolleyes I told her it was a hickey not a pup bite that I wasn't stupid, and asked Joe if the pup really bit him and his face got red. (Joe is a good boy, and won't lie to us), and he shook his head. I then turned to my daughter and said "why do you have to lie? Then the subject was dropped. I just turned away and tried to finish eating.
The day before that, we were out of power again, and DH went up to subway. I wrote on paper exactly what I wanted. She goes up to Subway with DH and he stays in the vehicle yapping on the phone, she goes in and gets the food. When they get home, I am looking for my sandwich........
This is what I ordered:
Turkey w/ bacon
lettuce
tomato
pepperocini
black olives
light vinegar and oil
Italian bread, toasted
THIS is what I got
salami, pepperoni, ham
provelone cheese
cucumbers
lettuce
tomato
peppercoini
green peppers
black olives
mayonaise
bread (don't know what kind), untoasted
:shocked:shocked:shocked
I had it WRITTEN ON A PEICE OF PAPER.......yet she remembered 3 other sandwiches that wasnt written down?
She said she "forgot", yet had the list in her hand. She KNOWS I can not eat pepperoni-- it tears my stomach up....
So I picked off everything and ate 1/2 of the sandwich. I was livid.
The whole time she was sitting there occasionally looking at me.
Wanting a reaction.....
I only ate half of it, and threw the rest away. No body else wanted it.
Yesterday we got over a foot of snow. Her friend cane up here the night before to spend the weekend with her as part of her bday present. Well we got all this snow so her friend was told she needed to go home so she wouldn't get stuck up here. My daughter went with her, and calls me a couple of hours later and says she got her tongue pierced....That was her friends bday gift to her.....:doh I was quiet on the phone. I am sitting here with no power in a cold house, and she is telling me this o the phone......She keeps asking me, are you mad? are you mad? I finally said, "I don't like it......."
She says "well it didn't hurt and it isn't swelling, and I don't want you mad"
I told her she doesn't care what I think, or tell her anyway, so why should it matter now....Still not trying to give her a reaction....
The thing is, I was already upset because they were going to be driving about 55 miles in this snow. It was BAD out, I was a nervous wreck, and was worried they wouldn't make it in one piece. They are just kids, and driving in this is a task for adults. It was all highway from our house to hers.
It is like she goes out of her way to torment me.
She takes meds, for her disorders, but she likes to make me miserable.....
So now she will come home and and all I will here about is this tongue piercing, how do I not react???
She has put me through soooooooooooooooooo much the last couple of years and I am just worn out. Just worn out.