No more throwing parties for me!

[J4E]

We had approximately 15 friends from church come over for New Years tonight. It was fun until my dh got stupid. Yes, drank too much as usual and made a donkey behind of himself. Slurring, vulgar conversations and even falling down. I'm SO embarrassed and angry.

He has a drinking problem in which he simply can't just have a glass of wine or two and be done with it. He always has to take it that one step too far but he wont admit it. I know when we dated and married we were both in our 20's and neither of us was saved and it was party time every weekend. I'm saved now.... he says he is too but I'm starting to wonder if his conversion was a false one as there is absolutely no change in him. But anyway... back to what I was saying. He tries to act like he did in his 20's. We are both in our 40's for crying out loud. I would thing he would have outgrown the whole frat party scene by now..

So he is passed out on the couch and I was left to pick up the mess now after 2:00 am and I need to get up in 5 hours to go to work. I'm at my wits end. I'm sure he thinks I have turned into some fudy daddy but I really don't equal getting drunk with fun anymore. I just don't know what to do anymore considering he wont admit he has a problem.

Sorry for the vent. Not looking for a pity party but sometimes I just need to vent my frustrations. I could use your prayers though. I'm a big believe in the power of prayer.

[farmgirl]

Sorry your dh has this issue. God works in different ways and speeds on different people. Some people change over night, and some people may take years to gain conviction on certain issues. Trust God with this...he knows your dh better than anyone, and loves him more than anyone. Sounds like much prayer is needed. Do you both attend a church where your dh can fellowship with other men and be discipled? As this is a problem, why not just not serve alcohol? If I know this is a stumbling block for someone I try to make sure there's not alcohol around. :hug Hope you get some rest, your dh will regret drinking too much when he wakes up like this :hehee

[lisa]

:hug J4E :hug

[Vickimac]

Maybe you should do some filming of friends for the next occasion? ;)

I think maybe if he saw what a horses patootie he was being, how he looked, how he acts under the influence, it might make him look at that bottle a little different next time? Worth a shot. I don't think some people realize how stupid they become when drunk. It's not pretty, they're sloppy and gross. Trouble is when you are the one drunk, you see it from under the fog. Maybe he should see it with sober eyes sometime.

:hug

[yeshua'sbride]

Praying for you and your husband, J4E. :hug:pray

Why not post this in the prayer forum, where you'll get even more prayer.....

[Sing4Him]

We had approximately 15 friends from church come over for New Years tonight. It was fun until my dh got stupid. Yes, drank too much as usual and made a donkey behind of himself

This was a "church" group and alcohol was served?

[christnme]

praying for you in this situation

[Sealed]

:hug :pray

[christianmom]

This was a "church" group and alcohol was served?


That was also my question when I read this. :thinking

[Pleye]

I guess my big question is "how did your church friends react?" Did they laugh and consider him the life of the party or did they feel bad for you? Because this may lead you to an answer that has a lot to do with the church you attend. It may not be so much a genuine conversion on his part, but the fact that you still hang around with people who don't discourage the "old man" behaviors.