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scrappergirl
January 5th, 2008, 03:46 PM
My friend and I will be doing a purity event geared toward middleschool girls and their moms at church in February.
We are using "Every Young Woman's Battle" book and workbook as a guideline, and each pair will receive this set with their $15 fee (that's a little less than what the set costs). We are not specifically using it for the workshop/event because it gets quite graphic and we feel that there is too much of an experience range in this age group...but it has alot of good stuff that is not TOO intense for anyone coming that we will be using.

My question is:

has any of you ever gone to something like this?
Organized something like this?

Do you have any suggestions or tips for stuff to talk about or anything?

i have a rudimentary outline that i am working on which I'll post tomorrow or later tonight if I have time (can't right now).

We also plan to POSSIBLy have a break out session for the moms to watch a dvd by the same author as the books entitles "preparing your daughter for every young woman's battle" which SEEMS to be more geared toward the age group we're tackling right now (unlike the book/wkbk which is a bit older).

we also want to have fun stuff too, like nail painting, maybe a demo on how to apply makeup TASTEFULLY, perhaps a scrapbook page, maybe some type of game (not sure what)..but enough to keep them interested in hanging on thru the tough stuff.

We decided this was something that needed to be done bc of the unfortunate appearance that many of the teens at our church or involved w/youth group at our church *but not necessarily members* are either involved in sexual sin or flirting with it by the way they act, dress, etc. This has been brought up a few times to leaders, and it is being addressed in the youth programs (although...frankly I'm not sure how effectively it is, since there are some things that do concern me since i see no difference!)...and finally my friend called me because she felt after reading the scripture about older women instructing the younger women that it was up to us to correct these things when we see that the parents are not.

Anyway...
that's the short version.

if you have ever been to anything like this put on by a professional speaker or even by a church, etc., i'd love to hear your input, ideas, etc. We don't have alot of time to plan, and we'd really like to be as thorough as possible, as well as have this day really be able to make an impact on the girls and their moms.

our next one will hopefully be for the older teens (gulp)..and the pastor was so excited about this that he wants to see a similar thing for the boys in the church, with their dads. so this has big implications for our tiny church...even if it only helps ONE girl stay pure until marriage...

thanks in advance for your insight!

Sealed
January 5th, 2008, 04:08 PM
What a great idea!

I cannot offer any help on the matter, b/c I have not been involved in an event lke this; Both my dd are under 9. I know we will be there before I am ready, tho.

One thing that I think is neat is the purity ring/ contract idea. I have seen the rings in Christian bookstores. Maybe that is for older teens?

Anyway, God bless you for acting on His calling for this. I want to encourage you and let you know that you could really make a difference in the lives of these young girls. Even if it just 1, who, one day, makes a right decision, based on what she remembers you telling her. Godspeed Sis! :thumb

Biblenuggetlady
January 5th, 2008, 04:16 PM
I can't offer any advice either for this event, but God bless you for this and I pray you reach many girls. Have you read the book "Kings Daughter" by John Hagee's wife, it comes with a workbook, I got it for my daughter when she was a teen. :thumb

PS There is a church where I used to live that did this, not sure if you might want to contact them and see if the person who did it can offer any advice. The church is Central Christian Church and their website is: http://www.centralchristian.org/ They have a private school, so they may teach this in classes also and have more information for you.

God bless!

Cd4u_2
January 5th, 2008, 06:41 PM
I suggest you to teach her to be more ladylike. It's fun being a lady, and it will make her want to be one. (that is keep her purity)

teach her everything you know about being a lady with modesty. If you allow makeup, teach her about how to apply it while looking natural as possible. Have clothes shopping too. Oh and don't forget to teach her how to cook and manners too. you want to prepare her to be a good wife and mother and make it fun even if she hesitated it, keep persuading her to have some time with you.

When you treat her this way and teach her, she will want to be more ladylike instead of being "loose"

scrappergirl
January 6th, 2008, 09:35 PM
thanks for the advice and prayers. i appreciate them.
i will try to check out the link for central christian church, too.

sealed, i agree, it does come faster than any parent wants it to! unfortunately some parents bury their heads in the sand and their girl's behavior is evidence of that.

Most of the preteen kids whose parents are members/attendees of the church are pretty even keeled thusfar...
unfortunately, the ones who needed intervention (still do) are the older ones and it seems the parents are too *whatever* to do anything...i am not sure if they are too much their kids friends, or just too wishy washy, or just BLIND!
but..
one set of kids at time, i guess.

planning on also using a few songs from barlowgirl and maybe zoegirl as well, as they have some good pointed songs out there that expose the truth of the way young girls dress and act (earlier and earlier).

i am swamped but when i have time and its almost finalized, i'll try to post the loose agenda for the day so you can give feedback, if you'd like, on it.

thanks.
=)

HSmomto4
January 6th, 2008, 11:33 PM
We just went through something like this at our church with the youth and all I have to say is be ready for parents jumping up and down telling you you have no right to teach this to their child. Of course I see that you are wanting to do a workshop WITH the parents, so you may not get it as bad as we did, but there were many parents who were very angery that we taught sexual purity to their children.

scrappergirl
January 7th, 2008, 06:57 PM
hsmom,

ours is a tiny church...and i pretty much know all the moms with kids my daughter's age. i'll be suprised if anyone is that rude about it...although there may be one or two moms who opt out, which is up to them.

this is really just a way for the church to stand behind the parents and help them raise godly and chaste girls...hopefully people will understand that fact, and not think we're trying to shove anything inappropriate down their throats.

esp since so many are willing to let the SCHOOLS teach their children about stuff...or television...or MTV....or the disgusting tv shows and commercials, rock stars, etc...this HAS to be a better alternative> LOL!!

but thanks for the warning.
i am sure that there is bound to be SOME kind of spiritual warfare...

with all that said...i would probably not agree to allowing the youth group leaders teach my kids about anything like this without me being involved or definitively knowing the curriculum (or personally knowing the person teaching them)...so i guess I woudln't blame someone for being careful. But yes, this is mother/daughter...to give the girls the tools to do what is right in the sight of the Lord, for the right reasons...and to help the mom's too...so we can all stand together and protect our daughters from this sex crazed culture.

HSmomto4
January 7th, 2008, 08:19 PM
What the parents were mad about wasn't the sex talk, it was the talk about being pure. They didn't want the kids to think there was anything wrong with dating and all that comes with it in middle school and high school. I was shocked that by teaching what the bible says, these parents got mad. We actually had kids making out in the parking lot infront of the pastor just to prove a point. Very sad!

Cd4u_2
January 7th, 2008, 08:27 PM
whoa! I guess those teenagers pick up their attitude from their parents....

scrappergirl
January 7th, 2008, 10:35 PM
wow.
that is some heavy rebellion going on...and i agree with cd4u2...sounds like they got that attitude from their parents.

I find it utterly amazing that people would have a problem with teaching their kids about PURITY!!! Moreso that they'd be against it because they WANTED their kids to date in middle school!

What is the world coming to?


...wait.


don't even bother answering that. I already know.
sigh.