Is it just me? Or does this happen to you?

[Architectlink]

Is it just me? Or does this happen to you, too? just venting.

We are in a LARGE Christian school and one of the moms seems to be the BUSIEST body in the universe...and every time my son is in earshot, she is organizing a sleepover or playdate WITHOUT him.

Last night she did it again, while we were right next to her...during a big party that is happening this weekend. My son just walked away, and I asked him if it hurt his feelings. It seems the past schools we have been in had women who were consumed by broadcasting how popular and great their kids were while making all of the other kids feel HORRIBLE.

It breaks my heart when this happens. If I ever catch my kids talking in front of someone else about an event or party they are punished AND the person they were talking in front of is AUTOMATICALLY included...

just venting.

[JewishbyChoice]

I can't relate to the setting, but it used to happen in my family. I have a relative that does this exact thing. Her behavior strikes me as very cruel and intentional. I had to distance myself from her for fear of a felony. I'm sorry that you and your child are experiencing that kind of pain of exclusion. May your child be comforted and God use that tender place in his heart to always be sensitive towards others that experience the same thing. :hug

[GreenEyedLady]

Is it just me? Or does this happen to you, too? just venting.

We are in a LARGE Christian homeschool and one of the moms seems to be the BUSIEST body in the universe...and every time my son is in earshot, she is organizing a sleepover or playdate WITHOUT him.

Last night she did it again, while we were right next to her...during a big party that is happening this weekend. My son just walked away, and I asked him if it hurt his feelings. It seems the past 3 schools we have been in had women who were consumed by broadcasting how popular and great their kids were while making all of the other kids feel HORRIBLE.

It breaks my heart when this happens. If I ever catch my kids talking in front of someone else about an event or party they are punished AND the person they were talking in front of is AUTOMATICALLY included...

just venting.

Have you had her son over yet?

[Architectlink]

Green eyed lady, I am so sorry for your loss! How tragic. Thank you for your signature.

To answer your question...YES, We have the whole class over once a month for games or swimming or whatever, plus we've hosted a party for this child specifically more than once, taken him when the parents are out of town and carpooled him whenever they needed a ride...

I spoke with her and we talked about not mentioning things in front of others. thanks for your prayers.

God is good to us

[Architectlink]

I can't relate to the setting, but it used to happen in my family. I have a relative that does this exact thing. Her behavior strikes me as very cruel and intentional. I had to distance myself from her for fear of a felony. I'm sorry that you and your child are experiencing that kind of pain of exclusion. May your child be comforted and God use that tender place in his heart to always be sensitive towards others that experience the same thing. :hug

I had to distance myself from her for fear of a felony. That is funny!

Thank you for these words to the wise. Yes, the Lord has given my son a heart of compassion that I thank the LORD daily for and I appreciate the blessings that HE bestows on us.

Sounds like a relative I know too...why do some parents have to use their children and their popularity as weapons? Our children are subjected to enough already without being used as weapons.

[JewishbyChoice]

Your welcome.

That's great that your son has that compassionate heart. He will minister to many.

It's unfortunate when family members engage in these hurtful behaviors. Sadly, in my family some kids are pitted against each other in a competition that is perpetuated by mainly one bully. She keeps stirring the pot, but I love her in spite of herself. I take her in very small doses however.

[MurphtheSquirt]

I used to run into this in my first grade classroom. I had to tell the parents that they couldn't hand out invitations in class unless everyone was invited. I saw too many sad children who didn't understand why they couldn't go to a party. :tsk

Murph