Teenage daughter mad at me

[NewWorldOrder]

Yea, my 17 year old is a bit miffed at me....:tsk

Does that mean I'm doing a good job as her MOM? :heh

[MochaMel]

Gosh when are they NOT miffed at us during this stage.. :rolleyes Gotta love my 14 y.o.; thank goodness that 18 y.o. lives at his Dad's again.. :faint And 3 more to go.. Yipee!! :twitch :lol2

I'm just kindof now learning to let it roll off my back with their attitudes or seeming attitudes.. but i've decided i'm much better suited if they stay under 12. :)

:hehee

I hear ya sister.. :heythere

[NewWorldOrder]

I only partially agree with you about them being under 12. The younger ones are influenced by the oder ones. :ohno :aha


The 17 yr old isn't mad anymore. She was just irritated that I told her something and she knew I was right. :lol2

[funmudder]

Good moms are not their kids best friends until AFTER they are grown ups :nod :hehee

[ingel]

Good moms are not their kids best friends until AFTER they are grown ups :nod :hehee

agreed!!!:thumb

[Luv_Jesus]

Hahaha, so funny! Sounds like you're doing a great job!

[LARAGDOLL]

In my opinion if you don't make your kids give you the "LOOK" at least once a day then you probably aren't paying attention to what they are doing.

[NewWorldOrder]

In my opinion if you don't make your kids give you the "LOOK" at least once a day then you probably aren't paying attention to what they are doing.

:aha That's probably true.

She's no longer mad, but she is talking my ear off at the moment. :gaah

That kid can talk, and talk, and talk. She wants to tell me everything; don't get me wrong, I'm glad she likes telling me what's going on in her life, but do I really need to know every minute detail.

[Pat Hood]

Funmudder is right, you're never right until they are grown up.

I wasn't right until DD was MARRIED, and boy, was mum needed then!!!!

[NewWorldOrder]

Well, my daughter knows I'm right when I'm actually right.

We actually have a very good relationship, and she tells me pretty much everything, though she keeps saying she's going to stop doing that. :lol2 She is very level headed, but she's still a typical teenager who has to be told once in a while she's being a brat.

She has several friends who don't get on well with their mothers, and it bothers them. I think there's a time to be their friend, and there's a time to be their parent and sometimes you have to be both. If there is something really bothering her, she needs to know that she can come to me instead of holding it in or going to another friend who won't have a clue. It cracks me up when her friends try to give her relationship advice, like they have all the answers. She's learned that her parents have quite a bit more experience in those matters, and she listens to us, usually.

The one thing we have instilled in her, in both of our children, is to be responsible and self-sufficient. She has a job, drives her own car, and has responsibilities. She's had to learn, recently, the hard way that she has to be more careful with her checkbook, she had $76 in overdraft fees because she forgot to enter a purchase in her checkbook, and she paid it, not us. She also ran a red light on her way to work one day, and the city sent a ticket to me in the mail, and she had to pay a $76 fine, which she paid, not us. Do you think she learned her lesson, yes she did; she's more careful now. We have friends who have an 18 year old daughter, who doesn't know how to balance her checkbook, when she needs to write a check for something her mother gives her a check, and balances her checkbook for her. :twitch This kid has to be told when to do basically anything, or she doesn't do it. She's 18 and isn't ready at all for life away from her parents.

So, we give our 17 year old daughter quite a bit of freedom to make her own choices, even when those choices may be bad, or she won't learn. So far she's really only made one bad choice, which we had to put our foot down with, but she realized later on that it really was a bad idea, and made the situation right. I was really proud of her for standing up for righteousness at that time. Wait, make that two, she got grounded recently for getting home too late from a night out with friends. That was pretty comical actually, but we still had to ground her for it, but she took all in stride, we hardly ever have to ground her.

I realize that every teenager is different and they all mature at different rates, and have to be treated differently, but at her age it's time for her to start becoming an adult and making adult decisions. I guess we've done a pretty good job, because she is the senior employee at her job, over people who are much older than her because she is so mature, at work anyway. She still likes to be silly and have fun, which is important too.