jadeeyes
June 23rd, 2008, 10:56 PM
I'm trying to just relax and give it o the lOrd but it's hard when people at church or in the store or even relatives say "How, old is he? Shouldn't he be talking yet?" UGH, so annoying! He also said Fish and pointed to it in a book(YIPPEE:) The little things that thrill me
Unfortunately, there are a lot of people who put unnecessary pressure on parents, especially Moms, about all kinds of things regarding the raising of their kids. When I was a new Mom, I had almost no confidence that I could do anything right and there were so many naysayers who just fed my insecurities that I felt like I was a worthless mother and that my son was at a serious disadvantage. One person told me that my son had a bulging belly button and needed a belly band. I'd never heard of such a thing even though my little brother had a herniated belly button. I couldn't imagine why my pediatrician hadn't told me about this. I asked someone I trusted before taking my baby to the doc and making a fool of myself. I'm glad I did because I learned a belly band was not needed. I had people telling me that I held my baby too much while others told me I didn't hold him enough. According to some, he should have been sitting up earlier than he was, crawling before he was, pulling himself up before he was and walking before he was. This is what I heard, "You are a lousy mother and your baby will end up being as worthless as you are." Meanwhile, the doctor was telling me that my baby was healthy and reaching all the milestones right on schedule. Turns out that my son is very agile, athletic and extremely intelligent and has somehow managed to survive. He has a beautiful wife and a beautiful daughter and now I laugh about all those silly, dire warnings I was getting about my son's and my inadequacies. The moral of my story is that you should trust your own instincts about your children because you know them better than anyone else does. If you're really concerned, consult the appropriate professionals. :hug
Unfortunately, there are a lot of people who put unnecessary pressure on parents, especially Moms, about all kinds of things regarding the raising of their kids. When I was a new Mom, I had almost no confidence that I could do anything right and there were so many naysayers who just fed my insecurities that I felt like I was a worthless mother and that my son was at a serious disadvantage. One person told me that my son had a bulging belly button and needed a belly band. I'd never heard of such a thing even though my little brother had a herniated belly button. I couldn't imagine why my pediatrician hadn't told me about this. I asked someone I trusted before taking my baby to the doc and making a fool of myself. I'm glad I did because I learned a belly band was not needed. I had people telling me that I held my baby too much while others told me I didn't hold him enough. According to some, he should have been sitting up earlier than he was, crawling before he was, pulling himself up before he was and walking before he was. This is what I heard, "You are a lousy mother and your baby will end up being as worthless as you are." Meanwhile, the doctor was telling me that my baby was healthy and reaching all the milestones right on schedule. Turns out that my son is very agile, athletic and extremely intelligent and has somehow managed to survive. He has a beautiful wife and a beautiful daughter and now I laugh about all those silly, dire warnings I was getting about my son's and my inadequacies. The moral of my story is that you should trust your own instincts about your children because you know them better than anyone else does. If you're really concerned, consult the appropriate professionals. :hug