2 year old trouble....

[cbressler1976]

My son Alexander...2 years old....is really behaving badly lately....he has learned to climb up on the very high dresser and the the hamster out of her cage! ...so I give him a little spanking and put it him the corner....This does not work! He will scream at me no...and he just gets up out of the corner and run away...so I keep putting him back in it...over and over again...I will give him a little spanking and tell him, "no, you could fall down and hurt yourself"...then I put him in the corner....we have been going through this for 2 days...at least once every half an hour to hour! ...anyone have any suggestions on how to get him to stop? my older son never did this kind of stuff...so I don't know what to do!

[MidnightCry]

My advice -- keep spanking. Maybe even not such "little" spankings anymore.

[Amanda's mom]

My advice (I had to do this with one of mine) is to place him in a chair facing the corner then stand behind him. When he starts to move, tell him no in a firm voice. If he still moves, put him back in place and tell him he just restarted his time in the corner. At 2, they really can't stay for long so keep it short. He will get used to the idea that you are going to enforce his punishment and he will obey you. (my father inlaw got me a sweat shirt that says "She who must be obeyed" because my kids knew they better. He also called his son, my husband, "the old grouch" :aha)

My second daughter was abused in daycare when she was 15 months old and we had a ton of problems because of it...mostly of this type. There were times that I literally had to struggle with her to lay her on the floor and then lay on top of her to get her to settle down (violent outbursts). She eventually got the idea that mom wasn't going to put up with it and I was serious.

Good luck.

[cbressler1976]

My advice -- keep spanking. Maybe even not such "little" spankings anymore.

yup....i agree....
my boys are not afraid of me at all....and I was VERY afraid of my parents...kept me out of trouble...

[cbressler1976]

My advice (I had to do this with one of mine) is to place him in a chair facing the corner then stand behind him. When he starts to move, tell him no in a firm voice. If he still moves, put him back in place and tell him he just restarted his time in the corner. At 2, they really can't stay for long so keep it short. He will get used to the idea that you are going to enforce his punishment and he will obey you. (my father inlaw got me a sweat shirt that says "She who must be obeyed" because my kids knew they better. He also called his son, my husband, "the old grouch" :aha)

My second daughter was abused in daycare when she was 15 months old and we had a ton of problems because of it...mostly of this type. There were times that I literally had to struggle with her to lay her on the floor and then lay on top of her to get her to settle down (violent outbursts). She eventually got the idea that mom wasn't going to put up with it and I was serious.

Good luck.

The chair idea sounds really good! :thumb I was just standing him in the corner.... Your second daughter was abused in daycare?!? that's horrible!!
did the daycare get into trouble? .......I hope that I'm doing ok with Alexander....he doesn't get the attention that Austin did because I have two and I can't give him all of my attention...I worry about my boys...

[HSmomto4]

At 2, time outs don't work. Keep poppen the bottom and FIRMLY saying no. He has to learn Mommy means what she says and don't forget Dad. He needs to step in and talk to his son about minding Mommy.

[Amanda's mom]

The chair idea sounds really good! :thumb I was just standing him in the corner.... Your second daughter was abused in daycare?!? that's horrible!!
did the daycare get into trouble? .......I hope that I'm doing ok with Alexander....he doesn't get the attention that Austin did because I have two and I can't give him all of my attention...I worry about my boys...
We were already in the process of pulling her out of that center. Her bruises always faded overnight so we had no proof. But she had adult-sized handprints in the middle of her back three separate times. The third time, I sat on the side of the tub with her in my lap facing me and I was rocking her. Our conversation went like this...

M: "What happened to R's back"
DD: "Bad"
M: "Who's bad?"
DD: "R bad"
M: What happened to R's back"
DD: "hit you."
M: "Who hit R?"
DD: "Miss Kim."

I was furious but had no proof and the other adult in the room would have backed Kim up. Who's going to take the word of a 15 month old child over two adults? We paid for the abuse for years, we went through several years of counceling for her, and even now still have problems and she's 15 years old. There were a lot of trust issues...she didn't trust me until last year because I was the one who had left her at the center.

Is Alexander your oldest or youngest? My oldest didn't mind her sister being in the corner...it gave her some peace. Amanda never needed the corner but used to go sit in the corner with her sisters when they were in trouble. I have a picture of her laying her head on DD1's lap when DD1 was sitting in the corner. The "experts" recommend a minute in the corner for each year of the child's age. So that would mean two minutes for Alexander. Trust me, that's a longggggg time to a two year old. If you have a timer, you can set it and then he'll know when time is up.

Good luck. I wish you much patience. :bighug

[Cd4u_2]

I don't think 2 years old have a very good attention span or memory... The best you can do is do some childproofing and keep your child out of danger as well as put him in a chair for 2 minutes. I found timeout chair VERY helpful, I save the spanking when I know he could get seriously hurt... . I spanked my kid for crossing the street without looking and told him if he got hit by a car, it would hurt a lot worst than a spanking. I feel that a child need to know what pain feel like so he will be more caution. kinda like how a child refuse to touch the stove after she got burnt from it.

another thing, stick to your gun, your child is testing his limits and see if you will give in.

[cbressler1976]

We were already in the process of pulling her out of that center. Her bruises always faded overnight so we had no proof. But she had adult-sized handprints in the middle of her back three separate times. The third time, I sat on the side of the tub with her in my lap facing me and I was rocking her. Our conversation went like this...

M: "What happened to R's back"
DD: "Bad"
M: "Who's bad?"
DD: "R bad"
M: What happened to R's back"
DD: "hit you."
M: "Who hit R?"
DD: "Miss Kim."

I was furious but had no proof and the other adult in the room would have backed Kim up. Who's going to take the word of a 15 month old child over two adults? We paid for the abuse for years, we went through several years of counceling for her, and even now still have problems and she's 15 years old. There were a lot of trust issues...she didn't trust me until last year because I was the one who had left her at the center.

Is Alexander your oldest or youngest? My oldest didn't mind her sister being in the corner...it gave her some peace. Amanda never needed the corner but used to go sit in the corner with her sisters when they were in trouble. I have a picture of her laying her head on DD1's lap when DD1 was sitting in the corner. The "experts" recommend a minute in the corner for each year of the child's age. So that would mean two minutes for Alexander. Trust me, that's a longggggg time to a two year old. If you have a timer, you can set it and then he'll know when time is up.

Good luck. I wish you much patience. :bighug

Poor girl! That's terrible!!
Alexander is the youngest.....
I put Alexander in the chair this morning...he laughs...he likes it..:doh
He's a difficult one...

[cbressler1976]

another thing, stick to your gun, your child is testing his limits and see if you will give in.

:nod i think this is his mission lately...