what to do about mother abuse

[lendingheart]

my 41 year old unsaved brother is going to send my 70 year old mother to the grave. She has had a tripple bypass in the past.... and every weekend he comes in town... drops his 2 kids ( one 4 / boy with hair down to his butt ( brother is a 80's rocker wanna be), one 1/ girl) off so he can go play rock music with his looser friends. surprisingly he dont do drugs thou

mom has to miss church for him to do that.

his wife took 2 jobs and to stay away from the kids.. she claims she cant handel them.... they wont spank... the 4 year old is a hell on wheels.

the house is a mess... they never cook, just eat out. the kids are not beaten... they are feed well.... spoiled if anytihng... but still neglected in proper raising.

my brother is a DJ in a strip club, dont pay taxes.... with his wifes low income and 2 kids they get food stamps. THEY ARE FRAUDS.... and taking advangate of my 70 year old mother.

WHAT TO DO?

if i call social serviced my mother will end up with the kids.... she dont need that..... if i take them i will buzz the boys head so fast and he will bei n time out till he is 21.

this weenend is my mother 70th b-day... and she has been snookered into keeping those kids for 2 days..... SHE DONT NEED THAT

IM READY TO KILL....

what would you do?

[InChristAlone]

Pray. That's all you can do. It's your mother's responsibility to put her foot down with him. No matter how much she loves her children or grandchildren, she's still a mom and still needs to do her part as a mom.
While it's unfortunate what your brother is doing, some of the responsibility still leans on your mom. Unless you are willing to raise his kids, there's nothing you can do.

[watchman]

With only the information you have provided, I only ask the following:

"what would honor your mother"?

1. I would encourage you to pray and seek G-d's leading.

2. Given the only options you posed here at this point, the suggestion you make of calling Social Services and taking the children,and doing what you need to in order to get them on track, even if only for a short time.

Perhaps counseling is in order for your brother and his wife.

As far as it being your mother's problem, often things should be dealt with by the party involved (your mother) but "what should be" and "what is" often are separate things.

Everyone is responsible to and for themselves, yet if they are unable for whatever reason to help themselves we are responsible to do what we are able.

That is the premise of our salvation, the good Samaritan, Messiah and the woman at the well and Mt 25:37-40. There are others.

Your mother is in the twilight of here life, and should be shown dignity and respect. Her against a family of 4 is an unfair match. If you are able, pray and do what you can, even if it is only for a short time.

I will pray for G-d to provide wisdom and strength.

[House of Light]

Social services doesn't have any reason(from what you have stated) to take the kids.
They don't care that the boy has long hair, or eats out everyday.....and that they(the parents) don't spank...is a plus to them. They leave the kids with an adult....your mother....and not by themselves...Social services won't take them because they are "frauds". You've also stated that your bro doesn't do drugs. Why would social services take them? It actually takes alot to have kids removed from the home. My sil works for social services......just an opinion of "being spolied, not spanked, ..." doesn't cut it.

Although you do not agree with their lifestyle.....(most of us here probably don't either), I think you have described half of the children in America. I know many families like the one described.

What can you do? Pray. Ask God for wisdom. Your mother needs to put her foot down and not enable them...if that is what in fact she wants to do. What does your mother want?

[lendingheart]

i dont know.... i guess she enjoys the abuse and it is none of my business..... heck if i know.

by no means am i calling my mother stupid, but she is old and my brother is a minipulator. it is like watching a bully pick on the handicapped and nothing i can do about it ... apperantly.

If i tell him off.... it will break her heart. If he goes to jail for fraud it will break her heart... or mom will waste money getting him out. any angle my mother is hurt.

i am disowning my brother hince forth!

[lyngraphics]

Does your mother enjoy having the children? I know my great-grandma (70 also) would jump with joy if she could keep my 2 and 4 year olds all weekend! I wasn't sure what her viewpoint in all of this was, but before you get too concerned I would talk to her. It might be good for the children to be with her as well.