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NewWorldOrder
July 15th, 2008, 05:19 PM
I have to rant here for just a moment. *sigh*

I am babysitting a little girl over the summer, she's 8, for her parents until school starts. Her parents are divorced due to her mom having an affair several years ago. Since then her mom and her dad were working on reconciling their marriage, only to have the marriage counselor, a preacher in their church, and her mom start having an affair. :ohno Her dad was devastated when this happened. When it came out, the church kicked this guy out of the church because he refused to admit that he did anything wrong. :doh The mother doesn't think she did anything wrong either, and they have both declared the undying love for each other.

Today, this little girl I'm keeping, told me that her mom and this man are getting married in October. Her mom told her that since he's a preacher that her mom will be a preacher's wife and she will be a preacher's daughter, and they will have Bible studies every evening. This little girl was told, and she told me, that this man will be a good influence on their family because he's a preacher. When I say I want to throw up, I really mean it. I am actually sick to my stomach. I just want to take that woman and figuratively beat some sense into her!

I have not said anything to her mother, because she doesn't think she's done anything wrong, yet she claims to be a Christian. She goes to church and does all the right things, but her actions and the actions of this man say otherwise. I'm very concerned about what this is teaching her daughter. Her dad is a very nice man, who is having a very difficult time with this. He has to share custody of his daughter with this woman, and basically has no control over what she does when it's her turn to take their daughter. I can't tell this little girl, while she's here, that her mother is a *admin edit* and needs to repent of her sin or she'll be going to hell, because, although that may be how I feel, it's not something you tell a child.

I'm so disgusted right now.

Theresa
July 15th, 2008, 05:57 PM
If you told her that, she'd just want to defend her mom anyway. Hopefully the dad is a Christian that will lead his daughter in the right direction. It CAN happen, especially with the Holy Spirit's help. How pathetic that the mother and this preacher are reveling in their sin!! Disgraceful. :tsk

NewWorldOrder
July 16th, 2008, 09:59 AM
I owe this board an apology for my bad choice of words in my OP. It was said in frustration, and shouldn't have been used. I understand that we are all sinners, and fall short of the Glory of God. I'm just saddened by this situation, and there's nothing I can do about it except to pray and be there for this child.

Please forgive my arrogance and lack judgment.

tygerkittn
July 16th, 2008, 10:51 AM
I would maybe try to emphasize with her that we have to obey God and do what He wants us to do, instead of being weak and giving in to what we WANT to do.
Maybe someday when she's older she can share that lesson with her Mom and stepdad.

lisa
July 16th, 2008, 07:40 PM
I owe this board an apology for my bad choice of words in my OP. It was said in frustration, and shouldn't have been used. I understand that we are all sinners, and fall short of the Glory of God. I'm just saddened by this situation, and there's nothing I can do about it except to pray and be there for this child.

Please forgive my arrogance and lack judgment.

:hug Please know that prayer and being around for this child are two HUGE things! Don't underestimate your presence in her life! The Lord is working behind the scenes on her behalf as well. :)

Freedbychrist
July 17th, 2008, 03:13 AM
You said he was kicked out of his church. What type of congregation is going to accept a pastor who is married to, not just a divorcee, but one who he was counseling when they "got together"? Congregations like to know about their pastor's character, and the truth would surely out eventually - the wold's not that small.

NewWorldOrder
July 17th, 2008, 09:55 AM
Don't get me wrong here, this woman is actually very nice. She is to me anyway, and she is very nice to my daughter, and other than her bad choices she's actually a good mother, but I think she dotes on her daughter too much; probably out of some sort of guilt. I actually get along with her quite well, I'm just having issues with her choices.

She lives on the street behind me, and she has her daughter this week, so I will be seeing her more often. She has not brought up her situation with me and I haven't asked, and I think it's because it's contrary to what we talked about nearly a year ago when she was really excited about reconciling with her husband.

My husband thinks I'm being self-righteous and will say things to me like, "well, nobody can be as perfect as you." :twitch or "At least she's getting married to the guy." :twitch :twitch I don't think he gets it, because I have heard him brush off sin before, when his best friend had an affair. My husband condoned that behavior by saying that his wife must not have been providing for his needs so he went to someone who would. :doh

I thought about it last night, and I'm hoping God will allow me to be some kind of influence on her before she marries this man, and she sees the light.

lisa
July 17th, 2008, 09:57 AM
You said he was kicked out of his church. What type of congregation is going to accept a pastor who is married to, not just a divorcee, but one who he was counseling when they "got together"? Congregations like to know about their pastor's character, and the truth would surely out eventually - the wold's not that small.

If he's compromising this much in his walk, there's not much to say he wouldn't leave out the juicy parts if he were to interview with a church. :(

Freedbychrist
July 17th, 2008, 07:37 PM
If he's compromising this much in his walk, there's not much to say he wouldn't leave out the juicy parts if he were to interview with a church. :(

You're probably right. :ohno

funmudder
July 18th, 2008, 12:05 PM
If he's compromising this much in his walk, there's not much to say he wouldn't leave out the juicy parts if he were to interview with a church. :(


thats what I thought too :(