Issue with a Mom who home schools.....please help..

[lisaannne7968]

Thank you for all posts.

[Betty]

I asked my daughter home schools so I talk to her about this issue. She said this problem is more of a parenting problem then a home school issue. Her daughter started out in Christian School and now is home schooled. She said that at the Christian School, some children were more sheltered then others.
She also says that the mom overreacted. I think as parents we are often surprised how our children learn things at a faster age then we did and I know as a grandparent, that my granddaughter knows more at 13 then her mom did.
If you have a TV in the home, no matter how careful you are, there are going to be things your kids hear that you really did not wish they would be subjected to. During the Clinton's term our children heard about oral sex and this is just one example of how kids hear stuff. Even when we protect our children from the news they see highlights for the news during other shows.
I applaud people who home school, like I said my daughter does, but the truth is we cannot protect our children from everything.
betty

[lisaann]

This is a parenting issue, not a homeschool issue. :hug This mom sounds like she is being very naive.

[lovinlife4]

Naive is correct. The problem does lie w/ the parents (HUGS)

[Mountain Girl]

You know, it's unreasonable for this mom to have been upset with you over this. It's not like you're all excited about having your daughter threatened this way! You're the one who needed some support in this situation.

I can't believe she let her small children in to witness the birth of a baby. If they can handle that, they can handle anything.

My girls are grown, but when they were growing up, it always seemed like the moms who would have "overreactions", usually had some drama queen inside of them trying to get out. Also, these women didn't seem to be very genuine people, they tended to be pretentious. I wouldn't worry about her anymore. There will be many more dramas in her life. Hopefully, they won't include your daughter.

[antsinmypants]

Yeah, that's definitely a parenting -- not a homeschool-- problem.

Sounds like she is still hurting from her past, and is afraid if she shares information with her kids, they'll just "go wild" with the information they have, rather than understand and deal with it properly. Sadly, when this happens the kids get the information any way they can, and end up often in the same destructive behaviours/situations as their parents were in.


We had a True Love Waits class taught at a church I went to back in 98/99, and there were parents pulling their 16-18yr olds (Christian Private Schooled, Homeschooled and Public Schooled) from the class, because they had not had the talk with their kids yet. :ohno They were appalled and ashamed that we'd discuss sexual purity at "our ages". :idunno

Problem is, some of the kids at the christian school (affiliated with the church) who attended our youth group meetings were already sexually active. Yet, their parents NEVER had the talk wtih them. :doh

IMHO, at the very least, kids should know how their body works. . . and that if someone asks for a date, what NOT to do... and why.



Anyway, I'd let it drop and try and be a friend to this lady. Sounds like she really could use one...