What if your 15 yr old...

[sillysocks]

Got pregnant , realised it was an awful mistake. The dad is right there 17 yrs old working 2 jobs to take care of both of them. Would you let your 15 yr old get married? She will be 16 on 18th of this month. She wants to get married on the 27th this month. I am so proud that they are stepping up to do the right thing. They have their life on right track now. I am just so so shocked. She has already had the beautiful baby boy. Great mother to be 15. Doesnt throw the baby off for someone else to take care of.(I adopted her at 4...not legal but I have raised her, she calls me Mom. I was upset at fisrt but the mistake is done.) I need advice please.

[LookingUplinda]

People used to marry at 17-18 all the time. If she's a responsible mommy, well. that's what's important. Life is full of lessons, we all go thru em.:hug
:pray:pray:pray

[ZeldaCA]

If he's working two jobs, and she's doing a great job with the baby, then it sounds as if both are stepping up to their responsibilities as parents, and are being very mature for their age, which is great, considering the circumstances.

I would allow them to marry once she turns 16.

[Biblenuggetlady]

I agree with others, let them be a family. They've shown their maturity in handling the situation so far, that speaks volumes. What will making them wait for 2 years do? It could only make the situation harder for them, and end up with the baby not having a full time mom and dad in the picture. Are they both born again believers?

[Kem]

I think I would advise them to wait a bit. He is doing the right thing and helping support her and the child but I would like to see them finish school and be somewhat more mature if they were my daughter or son.

[sillysocks]

Heres the back ground......


She accepted the Lord at 13. We cried with happiness that day. He is also. She is home schooled. So she is still doing her school work at home. Yes she is very Mature for her age. She had to take care of her real mother , she had brain surgery and other disable later in life. Her real mom is so sweet but isnt able to take care of herself much. I kept my (step)daughter most the time and raised her. Until I divorced her Dad. Thats why she calls me mom and sees me as mom. I have been the only mom figure she really had to go to in life. Even though I am not with her dad she still calls me 4 times a week and still calls me mom.

I am just so confused though...i never thought I would have to go through this. She wants me to help plan the wedding. But I have mixed feelings. I love her and baby tyler so much I only want whats right.

[Texas Girl]

I would let them have a go at it. With lots and lots and lots and lots of hard work things may work out beautifully. :hug
:pray

[happymommy728]

Wow! What a tough situation. I would encourage them to wait and finish school too. To me it's going to make things even more stressful for them with trying to finsish school, working, responsibilities of bills, etc. I'm assuming that both of them still live with parents, still have their parents insurance, are living witout paying room and board,etc. Maybe sitting down with her and explaining the added pressure of living on your own would help them make a wise decision. Just seems like it would be extremely hard for them.

[lovinlife4]

If they are showing maturity and responsibility, I would allow a marriage. I would encourage finishing school too and show them a stack of bills and let it be known that things arent always sunny and times can get tough. I guess I mean to say the "reality" of being married. Theylready know the reality of parenting to some extent so I would just let them know you will be there for the and just give it to God. (hugs)

[fracturedInfinity]

I believe they are married in God's eyes already. Making it legal, so that they're obeying the authorities, only seems like the right thing to do.