encouragement

[BereanGirl_21]

Ummm I dont even really know how what to say other than I guess I just need some encouragement from u ladies....

Im 22(will turn 23 in the summer) Im away to Bible college following what I feel the Lord has lead me too....the problem is the last few years of sturggled so much with the issue of guys. I have no boy friends and have never had a boy friend....my own mother is convinced that I dont even notice guys and that im a snob...ive talked to guys i just and had friends that were guys just not a boyfriend. Here lately my parents keep saying when are going to get married? they mean it jokingly but it hurts so bad...im not even sure if thats Gods will for me.....it just hurts. And I do notice guys....of course I do...Im human and Im a girl....I dont I want to follow God but I want so much to marry to....I know Paul speaks about not marrying and how it can be a blessing....but I dont....I just have I really hard time with this.

[svdbygracethrufaith]

Oh sweetie!! I'm so sorry your parent's words are hurting you :( That's not right!! You shouldn't feel pressured to date or marry anyone. Everything happens in God's perfect timing. You know what, I dated some guys before meeting my husband and it was all stupid & meaningless and worthless! Consider yourself lucky that you didn't date guys just to date. There can be a lot of heartache & hurt when you enter a relationship just to have one. You are guarding your heart for the right man & that is what we are told to do in the Bible. I would just suggest to pray about it, pray that God would make it clear to you on whom you should date, if anyone at all!! Let God be your guide & you will be fine :)

Also, let your parents know that what they say hurts your feelings & ask them to please stop. I know it's hard, but you don't need that kind of pressure.

[BereanGirl_21]

thanks. i have been praying...but I sometimes wonder where my conventions are coming from. The Bible doesnt say anything about dating or courting....marriages were just arranged...not that I wont one of those. :) But its just hard to know where to stay on the issue. I dont want any guy other than the man intend to marry to have my 'heart' I feel that that is he's and he's alone...i don't know. Im going through I ton of changes right now...i just moved away to a Bible College after fighting w/God over coming for a couple yrs. So Im living w/ strangers.....and we'll I am seem open here...its easy...this isnt face to face....face to face converstation makes me so tongue tied and sick....and its just really hard for me till I get to know the person(s). I guess the issue of marraige steams from this...seeing all these guys preparing for ministry and knowing that for many one of their purposes of being at Bible college is to find a wife to help.....i dont know..know...just pray that my walk with the LORD would grow and that I would seek HIS face first and fore most.

[ihurt]

BG21 ~ you sound just like me over 20 years ago. It just takes one sweetie! I was never a dater in high school. I met my husband in college and wasn't even looking! He's my first and will be my last! It'll happen just the way God planned it. Don't worry and carry on with doing things you really enjoy doing. If I knew I hurt one of my kids with my words I would want them to tell me immediately...have a talk with them...they love you! God loves you even more and put those desires in your heart! :hug

[lovinlife4]

I guess I was a serial dater. I was always on a date or had a boyfriend and felt weird when I didn't. But when I met my Hubby, it was like BAM, I just knew he would be the last guy I ever dated and I was right. God settled me down and He found me my perfect match. He will send you too. It does only take one and you will know!! Hang in there:)

[PrincessPurple]

I feel like that right now. I am trying so hard to focus on God..but what is the point wanting to marry when the Rapture is coming soon?? I am confused. I know God is getting me ready for my spouse but......I feel stupid

[watching4him]

I didn't date in high school & not much in college. My parents never asked when I was getting married, but other family members did. I didn't marry until I was 26 &, when I met DH I knew he was the man God had for me. When the family members would ask when I was getting married I told them I was waiting for the right man & time. I let them know the timing was in God's hands not mine. I'm, sorry the words of your parents have hurt you, and please don't say your stupid because you are not. Rushing in to a marriage isn't wise, just lean on God & he will lead you to the man he has for you.

[PrincessPurple]

its not that...its pointless that I should ask for a guy when the Rapture is going to happen.

[ihurt]

its not that...its pointless that I should ask for a guy when the Rapture is going to happen.

I like the way you think sweetie!! :thumb :hug

[lisaann]

It is better to not date alot of men. When you do this you set yourself up for the habit of ending a bad/boring relationship and looking for the next one (the thrill of the hunt). Is it any wonder that we have so many people that leave a string of broken relationships and marriages behind them?

You should concentrate on where the Lord want's you to be in your life right now and patiently wait on His will for marriage. If He wants you to marry then believe me that guy is worth waiting for! :thumb No one knows your individual needs and desires better than God.;)


Bottom line, it is better to be unmarried than to wish you were. :fear

We have a woman in our church that I went to school with. She is a pretty girl who is so sweet and kind that people have a hard time understanding why she never married. Some, at her work place, have even gone so far as to gossip about her being gay. :rant The truth of the matter is she is completely sold out to Christ. Every thing that she does, every move she makes, every breath she takes is all about doing God's will and reaching others for Him. She can do this because she is not encumbered by a husband or kids. In fact she leaves for the mission field soon to reach the Tohono O'odham Nation (Native Americans). :thumb