a woman's heart.....

[saved_by_grace]

Hi Ladies, and anyone else who feels they should comment.

Pretty much for my whole life i have never had a real desire to be someone's girlfriend, to look/lust over men, etc etc because i know that God has someone out there for me and when it is God's timing i'll know about it.... but recently, all that has been in my head and my heart is relationships, such a desire for someone to complete me... to complete my heart and make me whole, to be a wife and to be a mom. All the books i have been reading and drawn to has been on relationships.... i don't know why this is in my heart so so so much... i don't know why it wont go away....

I still don't lust over anyone or anything... I just don't quite know why i have this feeling in my heart all the time.... i don't know how to explain it...

One thing that i read was really awesome, it said

"A woman's heart should be so close to God's that a man has to find Him to find her"!
- how incredible.

Any thought's on that?

How does a woman's heart get so close to Gods?

I need some advice.... i need something....


Much Love.:)

[Sunny]

I wonder if the knowledge that we are SO close to the time of the end has brought to your subconscious the buried desire to be a wife and mother before we move on to eternity?

You may not even be aware of it, if that's so, but you might think about it and pray about it and see if the Lord reveals that to be the case.

As to what to do about it - I'm a wife and mother who's marriage has fallen apart as we draw near to the end times, and there is nothing really to DO, any more than there always has been. Focus on our Father and Saviour and the Holy Spirit.\

And don't do it to get a man. LOL God can tell if our hearts are REALLY for him or if we are using Him to try to get something else. If we are just using Him, He is a jealous God, and will not tolerate it in our lives, because He loves us and knows what's best for us. He will remove what it is we hold dearer to our hearts than Him.

As for the phrase, it's a great cliche, and there is truth to it. But it is not a magic formula.

The magic formula is seek God with all your heart. If you do, He will not allow you to stray far from His will, whatever that may be. If it is for you to marry, then so be it. If it is not, then so be that as well.

I don't know that I will ever remarry, and I have to be OK with that. I sometimes wonder if the mission field is where I will end up once my last child grows up. I don't know. I just have to be able to say, with joy and thankfulness, 'Not my will, but Yours be done, Father."

As for drawing close to Him - you have to want Him. Just like any relationship. You have to seriously want Him.

When you find yourself thinking about what He wants, what He would think about this or that, asking Him all the time what He thinks about every little thing you are thinking or doing....

When you can't wait for the quiet of the night to come so you can truly be alone with Him and no distractions...

When you find yourself spontaneously breaking out in a love song to Him....

When you can't wait to sit down, AGAIN, for another hour in the same day, to find out any extra information about Him in His Word...

When you find yourself spontaneously dropping on your knees in adoration as you are walking through your home...

When you find yourself seeking other believers because you can't wait to discuss your favorite subject, God and His Word and what it means in our relationship with Him...

You see, this is what we do when we are crazy about another human - but how often are we crazy about God that our lives actually reflect it...?

No, these things do not usually happen in the life of believers. There are three instances where it does.

1) Most commonly our lives explode and we are so broken and scared or lose everything else and MUST turn to Him. Most common.

2) Very rarely God will cause this to happen in the life of a believer because He simply chooses to use them in a special way, very quickly and suddenly, and they are just hugely blessed to be chosen out of their stupor.

3) Where every believer should be - making the choice to seek Him. It doesn't come automatically. We are a sinful creature, our base natures are self seeking. We want what WE can get out of something or we are not interested. Even in human relationships, we are attracted to those who we imagine will give us what we need. So we are in the unique position of choosing God over all else.

SEEK and you will find. ASK and it will be given. KNOCK and the door will be opened. We have to take initiative in seeking Him in good solid, Biblical study, where He has revealed Himself to us. He is waiting for us to do so, with a sincere heart that truly wants Him. As we do, He will reveal more and more of Himself to us. As He does, we fall more and more in love with who He is. We are then on a never-ending progression of seeking, finding, loving, more seeking ---- unless we let our self centeredness get in the way and take Him for granted, ceasing to nurture that relationship.

All relationships must be nurtured, and ours with God is no exception.

Talk to Him. Tell Him you want to know Him above all else. Mean it. Seek Him. You will find Him. The problem is few really mean it and follow through with it.

It's all so simple, yet we complicate it well, don't we? LOL

[Lynn]

Excellent post, Valerie. I hope that every woman who 'lurks' here or is already a member, will read your post very carefully and heed the wisdom of your words.

[Paradigm]

I don't know why people make things so complicated.

I am a guy that would love to have a great christian girl as a wife.

In all the years I have been in church, it seems that the christian women have zero interest in christian men. Unfortunately I have gotten soooooo much interest from non christian women that it's been a HUGE headache in my life resisting the temptation to start a relationship with a non-christian woman. I've been close a couple of times.

I don't understand how christian women can say "oh where is the man for me?" when there's like 10 guys sitting in front of them??? Oh well.

[ChristiRenee]

Bwahaha.

There are like 10 single Christian girls to a single Christian guy from what I've noticed (maybe that's just where I live..? :idunno). The men are not asking the women, or even trying to get to know them. I've been asked out left and right from guys who don't have a relationship with Christ. It's been a struggle for me as well not to start something since it seems that almost every Christian guy I know is either married, not interested or too shy to start a conversation.

It's very frustrating. :(

[ChristiRenee]

.... but I'm giving it to God! :dance2

[Paradigm]

I don't know, I guess things are the reverse over there lol