My mother in law just passed away

[Pucci]

It was sudden and unexpected this morning. She went in last night with stomach problems. They found a blockage. This morning she was waiting to be seen by the doctor when her heart stopped. They tried to revive her but it did not work. We are in shock. I don't know if she was saved.

My 2 1/2 year old boy was really close to her. Both my in-law looked after him while we went to work. I don't know how to break the news to my son. My husband (who btw is not a christian) is looking at me for answers on how to tell him, since I am the one with "religion". But the truth is I don't know how to tell him. How much will he understand. How do I explain it in a Christian manner?

[iSong6:3]

:hug I'm just sooo sorry to hear this, it brought me to tears.

I'm praying for you, your son, your husband, your FIL and family during this sad and shocking time.

I'm also praying that someone answers soon who will give you some very good words to explain to your little boy, I don't have any experience there.

May the Lord hold you very close... :pray :pray

[Theresa]

:pray for your family.

[mary]

Pucci = our hearts and prayers
go out to you,
your husband ,
your FIL and your 2 1/2
year old son.

We will be praying for
you and know that the
Holy Spirit will help you
answer your son's
questions about his
grandmother.

Right off, I would say
a simple statement
to your son and let
him know that you
will try to answer
any of his questions
that he would have
about the loss of
his grandmother.

And be assured your
friends on the board
will be praying you during
this shocking and sorrow-
ful time for your family.

[Pucci]

I told my son this evening. I said Grandma went away, she went to be with God.

He understood that something was wrong because he kept saying "where's Grandma, I want Grandma". It was only me and him when I told him. My husband was sleeping. I tried to be strong and not cry.

I am afraid that he will ask for Grandma in front of my husband and his Grandpa and they will break down and cry and it will frighten him.

I don't think I should bring him to the funeral.

[Deepcallstodeep]

Praying for comfort for you and your family, Pucci. :pray

[jadeeyes]

I'm sorry for your loss Pucci. :pray

[homesick9748]

I agree, Pucci. I wouldn't take him to the funeral either. I think you handled telling him well. We will be praying for you and your family. I'm so sorry. Will be sending up extra prayers for your little boy.

[Seemomgonuts]

Oh wow, Pucci. I am sorry for your loss. I think you handled the situation with your son well. Praying for your family. :pray

[Mrsppmrxky]

Pucci, I am very sorry for your family's loss! it is so hard to explain to the little ones. Antsy was about the same age as your son when my FIL passed away. We did not take her to the funeral either. I was 8 months pregnant with our son, my husband had to fly home for the funeral. He was deployed to the middle east.

It was a very confusing time for Antsy. I broke down into tears the first time that we took her over to my in-laws home. She loved her Poppa dearly! (as did all of us.) She was told that Poppa had gone to live with Jesus, but when we first pulled into the driveway, I reminded her that Poppa would not be there he was in Heaven with Jesus. Antsy still ran through the house looking in all of the rooms and calling Poppa. We all cried.

You need to tell your son that your husband and FIL miss his grandma very much and if he sees them crying, that they are just sad and miss grandma. He will call, look for her and cry for her. This is normal and he will have to grieve as well, so do not try to stiffle his emotions thinking that you are preventing his from upsetting his dad and grandpa. It is a sad time for the little one as well.

I pray that God will strengthen you and use you in a mighty way. may God send the Holy Spirit to deal with the salvation needs in your family.