Anger at my daughter...

[WCoastBeliever]

Talking about this wall is the first step in tearing it down. Keep seeking to tear it down, brick by brick, with God's help and you'll do just fine.

I raised a high functioning autistic daughter and she was a complete terror. Rages every day. The effect it had on my second daughter is now coming out in her anger. I have to be careful about walls too.

God is healing us, one step at a time.

[Suzzanne4Jesus]

I guarentee when she becomes an adult she will be greatful to you and you husband. I know this from experience. I myself never had my real dad around, not because of my mom but because he didnt want kids. I was very rebellious towards my mom and her husband, but now I am glad she's married to him. I consider him my dad.

[sheila]

a friend just gave me a magazine - todays christian woman and on the inside cover there is an advertisement for a book called making peace with your mom steps to a healthier mother daughter relationship by H.Norman Wright and sheryl wright macauley
now i have no idea if the book would really help your situation it just caught my eye and after reading your thread i thought i would mention it

praying for you

[NewWorldOrder]

CountryMom, I saw something in your post that hasn't been mentioned here, and I'm a bit hesitant to say it because I don't want to offend you. So I say this in complete love, not as condemnation.

From what I observed in your post, it's possible that you have resentment and disdain for your daughter because she is the product of a union that you hated. You obviously have very strong feelings against your ex-husband, and she is a reminder of that. You said that your love for your son shines through, but he is the product of a union between you and your new husband, whom you deeply love. Your daughter may have picked up on that from an early age, and she may feel unloved by you as a result. This is something you may not be conscience of doing, but, none-the-less, she sees you doing it. Perhaps you need to work through the feelings you have towards your ex, and reconcile them in your heart and with your daughter.

[countrymomof2]

Thank you everyone for your encouragement and prayer. I am not offended by anyone's response. I know for a fact that part of my anger and resentment is because of my anger and resentment towards my ex. He did a lot of very hurtful things to me and my daughter. He was abusive to me physically. This is an area I know I need to pray about in particular. It has been very hard for me. Thanks so much for all the words of encouragement, and for the recommendations for counseling, reading material, prayer, etc...

[Cd4u_2]

just wait til she have kids, and she will fall in love with her mother ;)

[Kelly4C]

Hi Countrymom :hug you have gotten some very good feedback here. I was in your shoes till very recently. Maybe even still...I don' know I'm confused but am Praying for your situation and would like to share with you in pm when I can gather up the emotional energy. :pray

[countrymomof2]

Sorry, but I am new to this. Does pm mean private message? Kelly, I am looking forward to hearing your story. Thanks to the others who have sent me private messages. I am taking my time responding, as I have been very busy, and it takes a lot of time and emotional energy to respond sometimes!

countrymom

[jorjean]

I am coming at this form a different angle, although I think the previous advice is all good.

Lack of forgiveness usually builds bitterness and resentment. To begin healing a relationship begin by forgiveness. Ask the Lord for forgiveness of your harden heart towards your daughter. Ask Him for healing power thru the Holy Spirit and understand it can happen immediately or just begin a process. Walk it in faith that He will complete the work in you. Be persistent.

Second, go to your daughter and ask for her forgiveness. Tell her that you realize that you are not being the mother that you should be at the time, but that you really want to get there. To put the focus on the other persons emotions helps too. Pray with her and for her constantly.

I don't have your exact situation, but I did allow anger in me to blind me towards some relatives and treat them differently. It took a lot of tears, prayer, fasting, and perseverance to get rid of that root of sin, but today I am free and I can testify that the love of Jesus can flow freely towards them. Don't give up, you will be so happy to see His love flow.

I could not agree more. Lack of forgiveness will eat a hole in your heart. Pray for the strength to let go. There is nothing that will change the past.

[Kelly4C]

Sorry, but I am new to this. Does pm mean private message? Kelly, I am looking forward to hearing your story. Thanks to the others who have sent me private messages. I am taking my time responding, as I have been very busy, and it takes a lot of time and emotional energy to respond sometimes!

countrymom


Hi Countrymom... yes I meant Private message. I hope to talk to you very soon I'm just going through some issues right now. Praying for you...