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No2Flesh
July 7th, 2007, 09:24 AM
Good...a mans area..

I have a meals on wheels route.

On one of my stops the old ladies grandaughter comes out to get the meal.

She never wears a bra. Her Tshirts are thin. She is not bad looking.:fear

I would rather not be put in this position to where Im tempted to lust.
Thats why I quit porn...which I naively thought would end the lust.
If possible I would stop going there to avoid it altogether.

Im feeding the hungry and dont want to stop that work so I try to look only at her face.
Not having much luck there. Sometimes I look forward to giving her the meal.
Other times the image pops into my head later..

It is a fenced yard with dogs that bite so I have to meet her to hand her the meals. We cant leave meals because they may not be found in time and would spoil. If the client ate them they could get sick.

My heart must not be right, I know..
Im learning that training my eyes to behave is no easy feat.
If my eyes didnt ogle my flesh wouldnt be battling this.

Maybe I could walk backwards and hand her the meal that way.
lol

:gaah

Just venting brothers..confessing..I should pray about this and make my mind up before arriving to look only at her face.

Which of you face such temptations?
Really, do any of you not?

Please share any techniques that work for you that I might be able to apply to this situation.

I would rather not pluck my own eyes out...

Edit to add: Open rebuke is better than secret love, and more beneficial..
If you feel the need to rebuke me I can take it and learn from it.
Also, Im not pervert..this grandaughter is an adult.
Its also an assumption that its her grandaughter.

mbtcforJesus
July 7th, 2007, 11:28 AM
I used to be a carpet installer and would go into people's homes. You can only imagine the things that I saw while doing this. I believe you're on the right track by training your eyes to look only at this woman from the neck up. Also pray a lot before you go there. Or if you're still struggling too much have a woman you know deliver the meal to this particular home. I'll be praying for you brother. Yes, I can't wait for the day when we're with the Lord when we won't be bothered by these fleshly things!

No2Flesh
July 7th, 2007, 11:47 AM
Thanks mtbcforJesus.

I can imagine going into peoples homes would be much worse, Im glad to not be in that position..that could easily turn into something more than ogling.

Yes, I will pray about it and bring my flesh under submission to the Holy Spirit
with Gods help. Hiding in a cacoon isnt the answer (quitting the charity), Ive got to learn to control my old man wherever I am...deprive him..so that the new man grows stronger and has complete control.

It would help if he would go along with this plan, its time to stop begging and insist he does.

Just Ron
July 7th, 2007, 02:18 PM
Can you get another person to deliver the meal on that particular route? Can you get another route to take?

No2Flesh
July 7th, 2007, 02:45 PM
Hi FreeInHim,

Each route is done by only one person, usually about 10-12 meals.
So it would have to be a route change, not a per meal delivery.

My route is way out in the country and takes longer than the others, thus no one wants to do it and its hard to keep it filled. So I took it as my responsibility to make sure those meals get delivered.



In the summer my daughters are off school and they help
which teaches them important lessons on helping others, I hate to give that up..

When Im pulling down her street I will ask The Lord for strength.
If this is a test then I need to step up to the plate and
pass it like a (Godly) man.

All that said...if next Thursday I fail then its time to ask for a new route.
If they refuse I will resign.

Just Ron
July 7th, 2007, 02:52 PM
Ay, I understand.

Keep your eyes focused and do pray.

WhiteStone
July 8th, 2007, 11:31 PM
Man!.........it is tough to resist the flesh in this particular area. I work in a shopping mall so you can imagine what I have to deal with.........it is sooooooooooooooo difficult sometimes! I wish I had a wife, though that would not entirely remove the temptation, at least I could think of her when I was tempted.

I feel your pain brother. I will pray for you if you will pray for me. :)

No2Flesh
July 9th, 2007, 07:08 AM
You have a deal bro..

Also, may God bring the woman into your life
that He has for you when/if you are ready.

Proverbs 18:22
Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.

Wally
July 9th, 2007, 07:20 AM
From the tool box:

Start with prayer.

Take a tract.

Take your wife, mom, older daughter or have and elder lady from the church go to her. That's one of their charges: to train the younger women.

Picture her as one of the destitute, this may help compassion flood out temptation.

Just some ideas.

Every Man's Battle is a very popular and helpful book for this subject.

A wife is another provision from God. But if she is afflicted by a chronic illness (as mine is) then you will face a whole new set of temptations and growing pains. First focus on your relationship with Jesus. Don't be prideful, and don't expect you will have it easy. God is conforming you like a potter. Pressure, manipulation, ordeals, heat, fire, but the final product is useful and beautiful. Stay in His hands. And again PRAY. Ask for His daily provision and go, do His will.

No2Flesh
July 9th, 2007, 08:38 AM
From the tool box:

Start with prayer.

Take a tract.

Take your wife, mom, older daughter or have and elder lady from the church go to her. That's one of their charges: to train the younger women.

Picture her as one of the destitute, this may help compassion flood out temptation.

Just some ideas.

Every Man's Battle is a very popular and helpful book for this subject.

A wife is another provision from God. But if she is afflicted by a chronic illness (as mine is) then you will face a whole new set of temptations and growing pains. First focus on your relationship with Jesus. Don't be prideful, and don't expect you will have it easy. God is conforming you like a potter. Pressure, manipulation, ordeals, heat, fire, but the final product is useful and beautiful. Stay in His hands. And again PRAY. Ask for His daily provision and go, do His will.

Great advice Wally, I appreciate it bro.
I have already given her a tract. (This was your Life by Jack Chick).

It really helps just getting this off my chest to other male believers.
Now I dont feel so alone with it, even though The Lord was with me all along.
Your right in that I need to see her through the eyes of Jesus, and not mine.

To grow I need to face tests and pass them ,not my past SOP of running from them.
So I will update after Thursday how it went. Im much more confident now with all my brothers encouragement on RR, and feel more accountable.

If any of you ever need me Ill be here.

Thankful I dont work at Victorias Secret....Rob

Ps: Wally, your wife is in my prayers. :pray