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    Quote Originally Posted by Heislove View Post
    I would like to blame it on all the young ladies I have to encounter on a daily basis. I'd like to say if they could keep things a bit more modest, a bit less form fitting, maybe I wouldn't be staring and storing the image in my brain. I'm sure lots of you men could relate!

    But I can't blame them, I am supposed to overcome temptation and God wouldn't lead me down a path I can't handle, right?

    Quitting pornography was very difficult at first and after some hard training became a way of life. But I feel my body retrained itself to just be creative to lead me down the same path. Very frustrating. For my friends who suffer problems with pornography, remember that the magazines, the videos, etc are only half the battle.
    I agree totally.

    To tell you the truth, I felt like I was addicted to porn (and yes it is an addiction, like any other drug). And to tell you how bad I was, I had over 100 GIGS of porn and went and bought another hard-drive JUST to stash my porn

    I knew it was sinful and felt very dirty and unclean and unworthy of God's Love... but I still did it, because like I said it is an addiction.

    I prayed over it constantly and one time I heard the Lord tell me 'Delete'. That's all He said, and I didn't have to think twice.

    I went over and deleted every last one of them

    It's still a struggle and I find myself having impure thoughts and know I will stumble and sin before it's all over with, and I hate myself for that

    But I take comfort in knowing that God's Love triumphs over sin


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    Quote Originally Posted by Heislove View Post
    I would like to blame it on all the young ladies I have to encounter on a daily basis. I'd like to say if they could keep things a bit more modest, a bit less form fitting, maybe I wouldn't be staring and storing the image in my brain. I'm sure lots of you men could relate!

    But I can't blame them, I am supposed to overcome temptation and God wouldn't lead me down a path I can't handle, right?

    Quitting pornography was very difficult at first and after some hard training became a way of life. But I feel my body retrained itself to just be creative to lead me down the same path. Very frustrating. For my friends who suffer problems with pornography, remember that the magazines, the videos, etc are only half the battle.
    I can relate to this. The fashion industry really needs to tone it down on skinny jeans and "inappropriate looking" spandex pants . It seems like it's getting provocative every year. And today's society don't realize this.......

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    ... the battle continues....


    But so does the prayer

    Lord be our eyes, our hearts, our minds. Guide every thought.

    The temptations come in barrages, the fighting is intense sometimes,


    But YOU are our shield,

    YOU are our victory,

    and sometimes You are the medic who carries us from the battlefield and tends our wounds - regardless if we were fools or not when we got them.
    It's ALL about Jesus. The Son of God - Emanuel - The Mighty God - Our Salvation.

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    Still praying and in agreement with Wally. There is this woman at work who knows how to turn me on. Bless her and bless me as I consider and pray if I will ask her out. I don't even know if she is a christian...I'll find out. Mercy me.

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    ing for both of you. To willfully manipulate someone is not a loving thing to do, but that is often the struggle against the flesh.

    Praying that in your investigation of her faith you find grace to discuss God's desire for man over our desires for self.

    Start relationships with Jesus. Those kinds last.


    As for temptation, ing for your strength, and that you see with God's perspective.
    It's ALL about Jesus. The Son of God - Emanuel - The Mighty God - Our Salvation.

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    Quote Originally Posted by tbrian40 View Post
    There is this woman at work who knows how to turn me on.
    Consider this turn of phrase and how doing so objectifies a person. That's no way to even begin thinking about a relationship. You might wish to rethink just exactly what it is you honestly wish to accomplish by getting to know her.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Steve53 View Post
    Consider this turn of phrase and how doing so objectifies a person. That's no way to even begin thinking about a relationship. You might wish to rethink just exactly what it is you honestly wish to accomplish by getting to know her.
    Thank you for giving me insight here. I am getting older and realize that my relationship with Christ Jesus is of the utmost importance. But I feel like it is my time while God is telling me to wait for His timing...this I will do. I look back at this life and see all the deserters who have come and gone. I see One constant...my friend and Savior. Steve53...thank you, bro.

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    Quote Originally Posted by tbrian40 View Post
    Thank you for giving me insight here. I am getting older and realize that my relationship with Christ Jesus is of the utmost importance. But I feel like it is my time while God is telling me to wait for His timing...this I will do. I look back at this life and see all the deserters who have come and gone. I see One constant...my friend and Savior. Steve53...thank you, bro.

    Come soon Lord Jesus - Take us Safely Home

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    Psalm 19:14 Let the words of my mouth, and the meditation of my heart, be acceptable in thy sight, O LORD, my strength, and my redeemer.



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    I know I have many sins in my life, and I battle many things, but this one seems to be the worst and hardest for me. I feel for you guys and completely understand. I agree that the fashion of this day doesn't help the case and most women are worldly and dress quite provacative. I've even see some women come to church dressing a bit too provacative, especially in the Lord's house!
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    There are very few men who do not struggle with lust. The following verses penned by Paul sounds like he had struggles too, whether it was lust or not we do not know.

    Romans 7:14-25

    14*We know that the law is spiritual; but I am unspiritual, sold as a slave to sin. 15*I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do I do not do, but what I hate I do. 16*And if I do what I do not want to do, I agree that the law is good. 17*As it is, it is no longer I myself who do it, but it is sin living in me. 18*For I know that good itself does not dwell in me, that is, in my sinful nature.[c] For I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out. 19*For I do not do the good I want to do, but the evil I do not want to do—this I keep on doing. 20*Now if I do what I do not want to do, it is no longer I who do it, but it is sin living in me that does it.

    21*So I find this law at work: Although I want to do good, evil is right there with me. 22*For in my inner being I delight in God’s law; 23*but I see another law at work in me, waging war against the law of my mind and making me a prisoner of the law of sin at work within me. 24*What a wretched man I am! Who will rescue me from this body that is subject to death? 25*Thanks be to God, who delivers me through Jesus Christ our Lord!

    So then, I myself in my mind am a slave to God’s law, but in my sinful nature[d] a slave to the law of sin.

    We are saved by grace alone, through faith alone, in Jesus Christ alone. We are wretched sinners and He is a wonderful Savior. When we repent and put our faith in Jesus as our Savior we are justified and as someone mentioned earlier, He will give us his Spirit to help us through the lifelong process of sanctification. Keep repenting and asking for His help and you will eventually hate the sin like God does as you grow in Holiness. I am speaking from personal experience. I would also like to recommend Wretched TVs Slaying the Dragon. That reminds me, it is time for me to listen to it again. If you are in Christ it is his plan for you to overcome sin. I will be praying for you and I.

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    Thank you, Wretched for this. I keep visiting a porn site and I am sick of it. It is time to give it to the Lord again. He is my Deliverer and my Salvation! I will endure just as Yeshua has commanded us to do. Praying for everyone here...pray for me.

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    Default I'm Worried I went too far

    I had what I thought was a salvation experience a year ago last Jan. where I trusted Jesus for my salvation for the first time.

    However, I have a sin that only men seem to have with the internet and I cannot control it. I also have been sniffing contact cement. I can walk away from it for weeks at a time but I always return to it.

    I feel like I have been cut off, as if the "silver cord has been cut". I ask for forgiveness but I fear it's too late for me, I think I'm doomed for Hell.

    This really frightens me and I can't seem to overcome this, it's a constant stuggle to resist this but I always seem to fail. I fear I'm going insane.

    Is there any hope??
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    23 gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.

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    Just a quick note to allay your fears, no you haven't gone too far. Many Christians, myself included, have backslidden into ugly depths of sin where all appearances would seem have gone too far.


    Luke 21:28

    "Now when these things begin to happen, look up and lift up your heads, because your redemption draws near"

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    Hi...

    I read your post, and had to respond.

    In Christ Jesus, there is always hope. No one is beyond the scope of His grace, and He said so...

    My sheep listen to my voice; I know them, and they follow me. I give them eternal life, and they shall never perish; no one can snatch them out of my hand. My Father, who has given them to me, is greater than all; no one can snatch them out of my Father’s hand. (John 10:27–29).

    What a blessed assurance!! God the Father has given us to Jesus His Son. Are there any better hands that we should be in? Be greatly encouraged, brother... we are the precious children of the KING of kings and the LORD of lords.

    You have opened your heart, mind, soul and spirit to Jesus. Because your trust is in Him, He has sealed you with the Holy Spirit against the Day of Judgment... NOTHING can change that.

    Because you do love and follow Jesus, you are under attack by the evil one. There is a way out 'in the day of trouble':

    For in the day of trouble he will keep me safe in his dwelling; he will hide me in the shelter of his tabernacle and set me high upon a rock. (Psalm 27:5).

    This blessing will continue always, and we remain...

    being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus. (Philppians 1:6).

    Have a blessed day!

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    Big struggle with me too! It seems that everywhere you look there is reference (in some way) to porn. The sitcom "Friends" is a good example. They often reference to watching porn. Its everywhere! Praying for everyone here that struggles!

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    If your eye causes you to sin then gouge it out...

    The modern translation of this is to, as the LORD says, "purge the evil that is among you." This means that if your computer causes you to sin, you must get rid of it or put some pretty heavy stops on the sites you visit. If your smart phone causes you to sin, get a traditional cell phone with no access. If you have a DVD collection that causes you to sin, burn it in the fire. If the magazine rack at the grocery store causes you to sin, make a concerted effort to not walk down that aisle and fall into temptation." Make a list of everything that is a weakness for you, and then purge the evil from among you! The enemy wants to blind us to the fact that temptations come from somewhere, and there are often very simple ways of steering clear of them. While you do this, bathe yourself in the Word of God. Stop drinking from those dirty cisterns when you can have Living Water.

    Did you know that women who work in porn often throw up after their scenes are done, or even during them?

    Did you know that these women are at risk for all sorts of sexually transmitted diseases from the things they do? And don't fool yourself, they don't really want to be doing these things. The heart of a woman is to be loved and protected.

    Did you know many of these women are deeply depressed in their personal lives? That they are desperate for true love, the kind of love that only the Good Shepard can give them?

    Consider that every one of these women is someone's sister, mother, daughter, friend, and one of God's truly magnificent creations.

    I think these are helpful things to consider as you battle this horrendous monster that has ruined the lives of so many men and women.



    Quote Originally Posted by jemz20 View Post
    well i've been a member here for a couple years now. i read and re read all the articles here and around the forums but i hardly ever post. But i really am in need of prayer.

    i am a single, 20 year old male and struggling with every mans challenge. and i cant keep myself reframed and perminantly away from it (picture/media on the net of women). I can be self controlled for months, but sometimes only days. and its a loop that no matter how long im out of, i always fall back into. and perhaps some of you can relate.

    i feel so bad, and dirty and shamefull. and i am a youthleader and a helper at church, i feel like i should take myself out of this role because i cannot perminantly walk purely, although i try but just cant. i am burdened, and guilty and feel dirty and shamefull and i just cant seem to bring myself to confession to recieve intersession from another christian/elder about this stuff, i dont even feel like im saved anymore.

    i have been into drugs real heavy and got away from them far far easier than this.

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    My porn addiction led me down some very dark roads. There is some good advice in this thread. I would like to add this Jas 4:8 Draw nigh to God, and he will draw nigh to you. Cleanse your hands, ye sinners; and purify your hearts, ye double minded.
    Get your sin in the open. Find a brother to be accountable too. Get involved with an addiction based bible study. Sin like this can't live in the light. Get into the Word. The closer you get to God the easier it is to overcome this addiction. Trust me I know. Consider Gal 5:16 This I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfil the lust of the flesh.
    Notice what it doesn't say... Don't fulfil the lust of the flesh and you will walk in the spirit. This battle will not be won in the flesh or by trying to do better. This is spiritual warfare and you must fight it using spiritual weapons. When you read about the armor of God the only offensive weapon is the Sword of the Spirit, the Word of God. That's how you beat this. You have to love God more than your sin. Draw close to Him by spending time in His Word and watch the addiction fade. I still struggle but it is so much easier to resist. You can be free. I'm praying for you.
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    It is interesting the ratio of views to posts on this thread 402.75 views/post

    The Gun Toter thread is but 112.38.


    Perhaps we can sense how deep and personal this issue is. A very private fail, one that can have devastating effects on family, job, life.

    It is so important for men to have mentors, trustworthy friends, character models, accountability partners.

    The best is when your wife is one of them, but often the gender difference makes it so difficult - even painful.


    And sometimes nothing needs to be said. Temptation is what it is. Battling it and overcoming it by His Spirit is the only way.
    But a friend is often a critical part of the process God uses.

    Someone familiar with our weakness.
    Christ has been there too.


    for all those in this Battle. Find a brother in Christ.


    And Ransomed has posted an excellent tool - seeing things for what they are. Truth is a very powerful tool.
    It's ALL about Jesus. The Son of God - Emanuel - The Mighty God - Our Salvation.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Wally View Post
    It is interesting the ratio of views to posts on this thread 402.75 views/post

    The Gun Toter thread is but 112.38.


    Perhaps we can sense how deep and personal this issue is. A very private fail, one that can have devastating effects on family, job, life.

    It is so important for men to have mentors, trustworthy friends, character models, accountability partners.

    The best is when your wife is one of them, but often the gender difference makes it so difficult - even painful.


    And sometimes nothing needs to be said. Temptation is what it is. Battling it and overcoming it by His Spirit is the only way.
    But a friend is often a critical part of the process God uses.

    Someone familiar with our weakness.
    Christ has been there too.


    for all those in this Battle. Find a brother in Christ.


    And Ransomed has posted an excellent tool - seeing things for what they are. Truth is a very powerful tool.
    Yep! Porn is crack... It really is. For those who struggle with it, I've been there too. Most honest men will admit they have also. I was 5 years old when I came across my fathers stash of "playboys", and was totally shocked as you can imagine any "innocent child" might be when viewing those images. Time passed by but the shocking images never went away. I think this is an addiction that seriously needs to be dealt with within the church. Entire marriages and families have been destroyed by the evil that manifests itself in images and movies--totally from the pit of hell....needless to say that the suicide rate is very high for people who engage in porn for "entertainment".
    What God gives for free, Satan always offers at a price...

    Praying for you all who suffer from this disease! Jesus really does love you in spite of all of this!!!! Trust Him!

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    Praying for all my brothers. I took it upon myself to place my bible right up under my computer screen so when the flesh try's to take over i remember who gave his life so that i could be forgiven of all sin.

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