Originally Posted by
Mommytoa3rdgradeboy
This is one area where I am glad WV is 20 years behind! I cannot imagine paid $300+ an hour for an atty.!!!! Most attys. would charge a retainer fee of anywhere from from $1,000-$2,500 (or even less)for child custody modification!!! I cannot believe how expensive these attys. are in other states!!! I am a certified legal assistant (I have worked in the legal field since Feb. 1999.) and I have filed well over 150+ divorces and I have NEVER encounted (either on the Petitioner's side or the Respondent's side) a $300 an hour atty.
I still do not understand why a judge would feel it is in the 'best interest of the child' to keep the child(ren) away from the mother. In WV, the family court system encourages as close to a 50/50 custody split as possible. If one parent is out of state, one parent will have the child during the summers and schools breaks, the other parent has the child throughout the school year. Transportation costs are either divided equally between the parents or the parent who moved away would front the cost. I would think that would be how most courts are because it would mean that they would have less issues of non-payment of child support to deal with. I know some courts garnish wages, but when Daddy works under the table (Yes, that's what my ex does.) or goes from job to job, that's nearly impossible to keep up with. What was the judge's reasoning to YOU as to why you can't see your children? I am not being mean, I promise...this is just inconceivable to me that a family court would be this way, when I know that here, a family court judge would be voted out of office very quckly if he/she behaved that way.
I start out by giving you psychological reasons, or explaining as this or that, but in essence, welcome to the real world. A world of dealing with men who are not normal or they would never conceive of withholding children from their moms at all sorts of young ages. they would never accept support money from the mother in most instances. they would never brainwash their kids against their moms. they would never use their own children as property in a way to hurt their ex-wives. These men are not normal or decent. It has everything to do w/ control and revenge and self deception.
So you ask about these judges? do you really have to ask considering what we see that happens in court cases all the time? Family court is not immune. the underlying current still remains that "Something must be wrong w/the mom for this situation to exists" and it goes all the way to the bench. There is no respect or decency in these cases and the lies flow freely from these "not-normal men". Proving things in court is a whole other ball game.. and if you go there, then it gets expensive very fast. Most attorneys, I guess outside of WV, are anywhere from 3-500 per hour. Once you are snagged into paying all the junk I mentioned earlier, where is this money come from?
People are NOT aware of the NCM situations out there and how very detrimental to society they are. Its another result of our wonderful "modern" society. And there is NOTHING to use to address the parental alienation that is going on! The courts dont even recognize it as such. You can't use those words..you have to use "verbal abuse", etc. Alienation is brainwashing of our children. It would NOT even be done if the person doing it wasn't threatened by the other parent. Another sign of a very sick heart and mind. But unless there are visible bruises???. no one cares.
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