I have a dear friend I love and cherish but I no longer like to talk to her much these days. We were really good friend during my last 3 years in high school but once high school was over we separated our own ways. She went on to a community college in New Jersey where she resides and I went on to college in Washington, DC
We have kept in touch through the years. Ever since Facebook she has constantly called me. I don't mind talking to her but I do mind that she calls once or twice a week. She is still in New Jersey while I moved back to Kentucky. We are still far apart but technology has enabled us to stay in touch at no cost. I don't mind talking to her but after talking to her once or maybe twice, I really don't have much to say. When I ignore her calls, I can see she calls 6 or 7 times, like today... 7 times!!! I feel like I "have" to call her when she calls that many time and I don't want to feel like I 'have' to call her. And when I do call her back, she has nothing to say!!! I really wanted to sarcastically asked her if there is something wrong since she called so many times. But I refuse to. Im going to be nice because that is the Christian thing to do.
I remember back in high school she was an atheist and was very open about it. I remember when I try to talk to her about God, she claims there is no God and the Bible is just a fairy tale. I remember there was no getting through to her head. She was adopted and was raised catholic. Her adopted mom is an italian catholic and her adopted father is an orthodox Catholic, his families are from Aremenia... I cant remember the religion name cuz my mind is blocked right now. She is American Indian... not the Native Indian, but she knows her real father is from India. Anyways, I remember her being very judgmental back in the days and it appears she is still that way. There is something else that kinda bothers me so Im not sure if this could be the reason I unconciously do not want to talk to her. She is not married and has a 4 year child by a man who is not an American Citizen. He is a black man from Africa, an area where is predominately muslims. He is going to school to finish up his degree in IT and about once or twice a month he goes to New Jersey City, an area outisde of NYC to do some work. He stays with a friend there and she never has seen where he stays when he goes. When he goes to NJC, he stays for a week. He just bought a house. And... she tells me they refuse to get married because it has something to do with homeland security. She said they are being watch by Homeland Security. I think this is all very suspicious. I didn't ask and am afraid to ask how did he buy a house? Where did the money come from? How is he getting funds for his education? Who are the people he works for? And... what is his religious? Does he beleive in God/Jesus? I get the vibe she is still an atheist or probably beleives in other religious besides Christianity. It seems like not long ago when I called her back one day, she asked me where I was. I told her I went to church and she looked like she made a face. I would love to try and talk to her once again but I get the feeling it would do not good. Like she is just admantly not ripe for it. I am just not good at getting someone to understand their need to have Jesus as their personal savior.
Another thing, with the Trayvon Martin case that is going around, Im pretty sure she will ask me about what I think. I will tell her but I know she will not like what I hear. She loves to talk about politic and I am afraid to even ask her about Obama. I get the feeling she is a strong Obama supporter based on what she said on her facebook. Did I tell you that she is judgemental? I somewhat feel like I have to be careful what I say or otherwise it will spark an argument. Like I said, I love her and cherish her. It just that our views are different.
Plus she has adopted a son she doesn't seem to treat well. Based on what how I seen her talk to him on my relay phone, she talked awful to him. And has told me several times that he has ruined something of hers and that she will make either his father or him pay for it. She is receiving child support on him and he does not live with her. You know my kids ruined alot of my things but I never made them pay for it. Yes I punished them for it, but not make them pay money for it. The situation with her ex husband and her adopted son sounds very screwed up.
I don't know my exact reason why I am avoiding her, I guess its many things. Love her but I need to do something.
She doesn't need to call me this often, I don't mind if its once a month or once every two months. But once or twice a week and if I don't answer she calls like 7 times straight????
Isn't this a little too much? Am I overreacting?