And we are to be filled, renewed, conformed. I believe these are active present tense words. Things that should be happening.
And it should evidence our faith.
Colossians 3:9-11 New King James Version (NKJV)
9 Do not lie to one another, since you have put off the old man with his deeds, 10 and have put on the new man who is renewed in knowledge according to the image of Him who created him, 11 where there is neither Greek nor Jew, circumcised nor uncircumcised, barbarian, Scythian, slave nor free, but Christ is all and in all.
Perhaps you never felt out in the cold. Alone, missing out, silence. Perhaps you've not felt the warmth of His smile when you taken another baby step.
Some are futher along in their walk than others.
But then Paul died daily. Each day a new adventure in growing, conforming, doing His will.
And when you've blown a day through stupid stuff done, and wake up to the fact, don't you love the refreshing rain of His mercy and grace.... when we are honest with Him - confessing our mistakes?
But then did He withhold it from us? Or were we not prepared for the application?
Perhaps fellowship is more merged with feeling - emotion. But we can only experience it through honesty. For He is Truth.