Your Family Traditions for a Christian Wedding

[katiesmom07]

Anyone have a special tradition in their family concerning weddings? My son is getting married and I was trying to think of a nice gift to welcome my new DIL to the family. Our family has come out of catholicism, and I was wondering what traditions other christian families may have as we may want to start something new.

[Acts5:41]

Well, Ron and I broke the mold. We had our wedding reception at a BBQ place. Everyone got exactly what they wanted. We had a very simple, short, wedding.

I don't think you need to do the unity candles and all. It should be two people, a pastor, God, and friends - making vows. You don't need to do anything elaborate.

One thing I did - I gave some disposable cameras to my nephew, who look LOVELY and professional grade photos. You might want to give disposable cameras to the 10 and up crowd.

[IMSAVED]

Well, Ron and I broke the mold. We had our wedding reception at a BBQ place. Everyone got exactly what they wanted. We had a very simple, short, wedding.

I don't think you need to do the unity candles and all. It should be two people, a pastor, God, and friends - making vows. You don't need to do anything elaborate.

One thing I did - I gave some disposable cameras to my nephew, who look LOVELY and professional grade photos. You might want to give disposable cameras to the 10 and up crowd.

Simple is the way to do it.Weddings are incredibly expensive.My daughter's friend did her wedding as inexpensive as she could and it still cost her $10,000.00.Everyone thought that was really cheap.

[BelovedChild]

Get married in church. It seems to me that marriages where the wedding happens in church seem to have a better record than those married by a civil celebrant.

Keep wedding small. DD! have big wedding. DD2 and DD3 had much smaller weddings. these were simpler and more relaxing. DD1 big wedding was nice but so tense because she was so touchy with nerves and excitement.

[IlovemyJesus]

Anyone have a special tradition in their family concerning weddings? My son is getting married and I was trying to think of a nice gift to welcome my new DIL to the family. Our family has come out of catholicism, and I was wondering what traditions other christian families may have as we may want to start something new.

Are you talking about the ceremony or gift giving?

[katiesmom07]

Thanks everyone for your thoughts. My son is older, 37, and he and his fiancee are born again. They are being married by their pastor, but not in a church, nothing big, and with only immediate family. I really don't know his fiancee that well, and wanted to get her something special and maybe start a family wedding tradition. I was thinking of maybe buying a special quilt which could be handed down through the family. But I don't quilt or anything. I was reaching out for some ideas that would be special. I thought maybe other families had some special traditions passed down through the generations.

[Tiger Lily]

My family has a little white basket that I think my late grandfather made; the flower girl carries it in a lot of our family weddings.

My mom saved her wedding cake ornament and I used it, too.

A ring pillow wouldn't be hard to make and could be handed down.

A cake cutting/serving set might be nice and could be handed down.

I sewed a pocket into my wedding dress and carried my late grandmother's hanky in it.

[Biblecat2]

I was thinking of maybe buying a special quilt which could be handed down through the family.

You already have a lovely idea! I've heard of photos being printed on fabric for quilting. A photo of the two of them on a square in the quilt? Or several photos of the courtship? An everyday quilt for their bed is a wonderful idea too! You hit the nail on the head.

[Rebekah]

Congratulations on your son's upcoming nuptials!

I'm really weird and not fond of quilts. BUT that doesn't mean they won't appreciate it, it is just something I had to get out in the open.

Does she have close family? Parents still around, and close? Siblings? If she does, you might get with them and do a special memory book, either a scrapbook or album, or photo collage of the two of them and your families...Or even combine some things on a CD or DVD for them.

[Kliska]

My Mom had a cake knife from her and Dad's wedding with their names and wedding date on it; we used it every time we had cake. So, for my wedding, my mom had a knife engraved for me and my husband. It's a neat tradition, and is very useful too

[Acts5:41]

Well, here's what I did:

Ron confided a "cheat" a few months before the wedding. I prayed about it and asked God to please indicate if He still wanted us to get married. I asked Him to help me find my wedding dress at a thrift shop. I did. It cost $5.30.

I got wedding sneakers off Ebay. They were white slip ons, decorated with white lace, ribbons, and purple and white roses (that became my "theme" - purple and white roses). I wanted a garden wedding, so my aunt found a show garden at a landscaper's headquarters. They were thrilled to host a wedding.

Our pastor had been recently ordained, and we were his first wedding. He made it very short. Ron didn't want to get married in a wheelchair, so he stood at the altar. The pastor preached on Hebrews 12:1

The Call to Endurance

1 Therefore, since we also have such a large cloud of witnesses surrounding us, let us lay aside every weight and the sin that so easily ensnares us. Let us run with endurance the race that lies before us,

I remind myself of that verse on occasion. It's a great marriage verse.

It was great.

Then, we all went and got BBQ.

We sent out invitations to a select group, asking them to "share our joy". Pretty much just my family, and one friend of Ron's showed up.

It cost less than a thousand dollars, and that included Ron's suit (he went to SUITSU and got one for $100), and a new pair of glasses for me - my aunt insisted I get new glasses.

She did my wedding planning, had a lot of fun. She has 4 boys so this was "her" wedding. She was great about understanding my wishes.