Today my husbands brother put in an apperance at my MIL's house. SIce we live next door to each other on a private road, it's easy to see who comes an goes from her house. He 's been in and out of jail several times, in prison twice, is addicted to drugs, and is emotionally and verbaly abusive to my MIL and his grandmother. He is about three years younger than me (I'm 36), never had a job for more that a few months. Ever car he has had, he has never had to pay for. MIL gives him money, food and clothes. He has stolen from her several times and she keeps letting him come over. I can remember him coming to our appartment in Texas City when my husband was batteling cancer yelling at his mom and grandmother for money, not giving a hoot that is brother may be dying. Everytime I see him at her house, I get an overwhelming sense of contempt for him, and to a point for my MIL. She works at a place that takes care of older kids with crimilal records that behave the same way he does, yet she turns a blind eye to his behavior. (My husbands step-dad has gotten into several arguments with him). My husband and I stay out of it, but we always end up hearing about him from her of my husbands dad.
Today, as my kids were fighting over the treadmill, I admitted to God how I really felt about him. I prayed for his salvation, then asked for forgivness for my feelings. I felt alot better after that. Half an hour later when I saw him leave on foot, the same old feelings returned. Has anyone ever delt with this? I don't want to hate him, but he has only been hurtfull to everyone.