Dealing with feelings of hate towards Brother in Law

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Today my husbands brother put in an apperance at my MIL's house. SIce we live next door to each other on a private road, it's easy to see who comes an goes from her house. He 's been in and out of jail several times, in prison twice, is addicted to drugs, and is emotionally and verbaly abusive to my MIL and his grandmother. He is about three years younger than me (I'm 36), never had a job for more that a few months. Ever car he has had, he has never had to pay for. MIL gives him money, food and clothes. He has stolen from her several times and she keeps letting him come over. I can remember him coming to our appartment in Texas City when my husband was batteling cancer yelling at his mom and grandmother for money, not giving a hoot that is brother may be dying. Everytime I see him at her house, I get an overwhelming sense of contempt for him, and to a point for my MIL. She works at a place that takes care of older kids with crimilal records that behave the same way he does, yet she turns a blind eye to his behavior. (My husbands step-dad has gotten into several arguments with him). My husband and I stay out of it, but we always end up hearing about him from her of my husbands dad.
Today, as my kids were fighting over the treadmill, I admitted to God how I really felt about him. I prayed for his salvation, then asked for forgivness for my feelings. I felt alot better after that. Half an hour later when I saw him leave on foot, the same old feelings returned. Has anyone ever delt with this? I don't want to hate him, but he has only been hurtfull to everyone.

I have been dealing with this myself with my sister-in-law (my wife's brother's spouse). She stopped pretending to like us when I decided to stop going to their house every Saturday night for beer, and bathroom humor and listen to them verbally abuse their 2 children. One day, about six months later she "unfriended" me on Facebook and told (lied to) her kids that I'm a homosexual and they are not allowed to talk to me. She has been spreading this around town to the point that people are shunning me at the grocery store, etc.
We too live in an isolated area with her across the street and I often see my little niece and nephew get yelled at for waving to me - they use to love to be with me.
Needless to say, I have struggled with intense hatred towards her even though I know it's wrong. It does help to remember that this person is actually going to hell and until now, no one has taken it upon themselves to pray for her. I kind of vacillate between remembering and forgetting this but praying for her is the only relief I find in this emotional storm. This is definitely easier if I do not interact with her, observe her comings and goings, assume things about her thinking and behavior or hoping she gets a comeuppance. In fact, this horrible situation has forced me to turn to God on a daily basis to find peace.
During our short time here on Earth as Christians we will suffer the hatred of Satan and he will use whatever he can to stop us from seeing the big, eternal picture and from praying for his victims. This is no surprise but in our fallen nature we easily forget and are inclined to demand instant, perfect justice. That is not going to happen in this life so we cannot give up or give in to hatred. Hatred will come to you as a temptation as long as that injustice goes unpunished. We just have to keep choosing to forgive and pray for our enemies. Satan hates that!

[Lynn]

During our short time here on Earth as Christians we will suffer the hatred of Satan and he will use whatever he can to stop us from seeing the big, eternal picture and from praying for his victims. This is no surprise but in our fallen nature we easily forget and are inclined to demand instant, perfect justice. That is not going to happen in this life so we cannot give up or give in to hatred. Hatred will come to you as a temptation as long as that injustice goes unpunished. We just have to keep choosing to forgive and pray for our enemies. Satan hates that!

Excellent!!!