June 23rd, 2008, 10:08 AM
I'm considering speech therapy for my 23 month old. He's only got a vocabulary of about 10-13 words and you can see his little mouth working when we try to get him to repeat stuff. The doctor thinks he's just a late bloomer and a little push might be needed. Anyone have their child do this? I'm trying to figure what to expect (and some prayers would be good too)
June 23rd, 2008, 11:50 AM
My 26 year old daugter didn't speak until she was four years old. She had an older brother who spoke for her. She spoke enough to get by. Once she turned 4 we couldn't shut her up. She is most eloquent today. Try not to worry unless your pediatrician recommends it. I'm sure he'll be just fine.
June 23rd, 2008, 11:59 AM
My nephew spoke like "Nell" did until he was three or four - he spoke in consonants only. His older sister translated, so he didn't need to learn to articulate well. His parents were worried he had some major problems because of his speech. Once he started using those vowel sounds, however, they discovered that they had a genius (or close enough) on their hands. He was reading and doing math at 4. He has been ahead of his classmates since he started school (he just finished 4th grade). If we still had a gifted and talented program in our district, he would be in it.
Hang in there. Does his tongue work okay? If it is attached too "tightly" he could have a problem with speech, but if you or the doctor don't see anything, then he is probably just a late bloomer. Does he understand what YOU are saying? His vocabulary may be very high, even if he is not speaking the words.
June 23rd, 2008, 12:53 PM
I think he understands for the most part. Things like do you want juice? He'll go to the fridge, or do you want to go bye-bye. He'll get his shoes and wait by the back door. Or give Daddy a hug, and he does, etc... I'm just concerned as his cousin is 7 weeks older and has a rather large vocab. I'm praying like mad and your prayers will go a long way too. I'll hang in there and keep you all posted!!! Many thanks
June 23rd, 2008, 05:46 PM
One question -- does he have older siblings that often speak for (or over) him?
We adopted a child from foster care at 21 months old. She was saying nothing and considered to have "significant speech delays". Long story short, she started talking about a week later but our pediatrician still ordered 12 weeks of speech therapy. We went for 9 weeks and the therapist "graduated" her. It worked wonders for her, but she had been in a VERY neglectful, unstimulating foster home.
June 23rd, 2008, 06:17 PM
He's got a brother age 8 who is very helpful almost to the point of getting him whatever he wants without him asking and a sister age 4 who talks over him constantly. We have been trying to read all the time and the kids butt in or horse around and it takes his focus away. It's very frustrating. Although today he said Cheese, Sissy and juice! I was so excited (I'm corny like that
June 23rd, 2008, 07:21 PM
Given the older siblings and the fact that he IS saying words, I'd relax about it. He's probably fine. I wonder if you could come up with ways to encourage him to talk more for himself instead of the others chiming in.
June 23rd, 2008, 07:55 PM
I'd give him more time.. he's still so little.. not even 2 yet!
poor iddy biddle boy!!!
June 23rd, 2008, 08:48 PM
I'm trying to just relax and give it o the lOrd but it's hard when people at church or in the store or even relatives say "How, old is he? Shouldn't he be talking yet?" UGH, so annoying! He also said Fish and pointed to it in a book(YIPPEE The little things that thrill me
June 23rd, 2008, 10:04 PM
My middle one, a son, had the capability of walking at 9 mos old. For SURE he was going to beat out his sister and walk before 1 yrs old---- well that little bugger decided it was much nicer to "ride" on mom's weary hip until he was almost 3! The stinker! He's now 23!
One day you'll be telling him about this and laughing mom! He knows what is going on and is using his eyes and ears more than his mouth.. just wait!
June 23rd, 2008, 10:56 PM
Unfortunately, there are a lot of people who put unnecessary pressure on parents, especially Moms, about all kinds of things regarding the raising of their kids. When I was a new Mom, I had almost no confidence that I could do anything right and there were so many naysayers who just fed my insecurities that I felt like I was a worthless mother and that my son was at a serious disadvantage. One person told me that my son had a bulging belly button and needed a belly band. I'd never heard of such a thing even though my little brother had a herniated belly button. I couldn't imagine why my pediatrician hadn't told me about this. I asked someone I trusted before taking my baby to the doc and making a fool of myself. I'm glad I did because I learned a belly band was not needed. I had people telling me that I held my baby too much while others told me I didn't hold him enough. According to some, he should have been sitting up earlier than he was, crawling before he was, pulling himself up before he was and walking before he was. This is what I heard, "You are a lousy mother and your baby will end up being as worthless as you are." Meanwhile, the doctor was telling me that my baby was healthy and reaching all the milestones right on schedule. Turns out that my son is very agile, athletic and extremely intelligent and has somehow managed to survive. He has a beautiful wife and a beautiful daughter and now I laugh about all those silly, dire warnings I was getting about my son's and my inadequacies. The moral of my story is that you should trust your own instincts about your children because you know them better than anyone else does. If you're really concerned, consult the appropriate professionals.
Originally Posted by lovinlife4
June 24th, 2008, 11:34 AM
I agree. People are SO quick to give advice (criticism). I used to bathe with my older daughter - for whatever reason, she was afraid of being in the tub alone. My mom was worried I would be bathing with her until she was a teenager. Well, it stopped by three. Sheesh, Mom, get a grip!!
June 24th, 2008, 02:37 PM
June 24th, 2008, 05:04 PM
Oh today was a doozy. The lady I babysit for has a daughter that is 13 months old. She claims she's begun to talk in english and spanish and I should work with her daily. Now, I don't mind teaching her things when she's in my care but 1st, I'm with her for 6-8 hours a day and I've only heard her say Hi. 2nd, we just had a conversation about my struggles in getting Justin to talk and I feel like she's rubbing it in my face. GRRRR!!! It's not a competition and I refuse to let it be. I would add that the little girl didn't even roll over until she was 10 months old and she's not walking yet or using a sippy. Every child is different but apparently hers is really "bright" so I'm assuming she thinks mine is not I need some prayer to not let this get to me (UGH) I'm really trying. Why do people always try to one up? She also added that they are working really hard with teaching her. Makes me feel like I'm not.
June 24th, 2008, 06:08 PM
Oh, boy - methinks this woman has some inadequacy issues, or she wouldn't be acting like this. Her child is most likely nowhere near as advanced as she thinks she is. And, yes, she may be trying to "rub it in" a bit. Try to ignore her - do your babysitting, and leave it at that. You aren't a Spanish teacher and I'm sure you aren't paid teacher's wages (I'm not advocating neglecting this girl, but come on, she's 13 months old - there's no need to break out the school supplies yet). Seriously, I'm leaning toward your son's not talking as more of a choice of his. He has siblings who are doing for him and talking over him. One of these days, you're gonna wish he wouldn't talk so much!
July 9th, 2008, 10:03 AM
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July 9th, 2008, 10:15 PM
It does help. His doc called today to schedule speech therapy and there's a waiting list. I just keep thinking about a little girl I babysat for about 6 months who was 3 and hadn't even said Mama yet. Her mom took her to speech therapy and within about 2 months was speaking clearly. I still think he's just a late bloomer but we'll see. I truely pray everyday for progress!!